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writes:Hi there,I've been with my current partner for almost 6 months. He has been showing his love and care, but somehow I lost my ability to trust him. I was hurt by my ex bf who cheated on me, but he claimed that because I had always doubt him, and finally i made it happened. I don't want the same thing happen to my current bf, but i just don't know how to stop doubting despite he has been telling me a thousand times, explain me a thousand times that his love is exclusively for me.I actually dont doubt his love to me, but it's my understanding that even though a guy is seriously in love with a girl, it doesnt mean that he can overcome all the temptation. Doubting someone you love isn't a good feeling, and I really need a way out, else I can never have a healthy relationship...please help!!Pearl
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reader, mum2be  +, writes (8 March 2007):
Try to focus on your current relationship rather than the past ones. This will help relieve your misconceptions about your current bf.If this current bf has done nothing to deserve your mistrust, let him know. Tell him exactly what you have written here, as this will help him to understand what you are going through.I hope this relationship works out for you!all the best
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reader, chachacha +, writes (7 March 2007):
You are worrying so much, that one day he will leave you.
One day he might leave you. One day he might fall out of love with you. One day he might go off with another woman. One day he may be killed by a bus.
Or he might not.
Don't live tomorrow's worries today - leave them for tomorrow. You'll have plenty of time to deal with them then.
Try and enjoy today. Be grateful that he is here with you today and that it is nice. Live more in the present.
He can't prove to you what will happen tomorrow or how he will feel then. But he has tried to prove to you how he feels today, and today he loves you.
Enjoy that and be grateful
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reader, balface +, writes (7 March 2007):
 Sounds like your previous relationship with your boyfriend is affecting your new and current relationship with the guy you love. Try not let it get to you, it sounds like this guy really does love you. If he shows his love and care then he seems pretty serious about your relationship.
Everyone comes with a past and your past doesn't seem too fantastic when it comes to your ex. I'm sure your boyfriend respects that you are worried incase the same thing happens again, I'm sure he understands. I'm not going to lie and pretend all guys are fantastic, some aren't. You will know within yourself whether your partner is trustworthy.
My top tip: Try not to think back to your past relationships and compare them to your current one. If you do, you will usually find that your mind will put together similarities between them, even though they might not be similar in the slightest. If I were you, I wouldn't worry, possibly talk about it with your partner and spend some quality, lovng time together.
Let me know how it goes x x
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