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*londie78
writes: I know what my husband got me for Christmas (he left it on his dresser) and it is hideous earring that I wouldn't be caught dead in. Should I hint to him that I hate gold jewelry, or hearts with hopes that he will return it for another gift, or pretend I like it?
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reader, moomoomoo +, writes (21 December 2006):
lol that's some funny situation! i'd say you tell him the truth and make a joke out of it... and at the same time say you really like how he got you it, but then let him know you'll get something you like, maybe you tell him what kind of things you like so next time he'll know
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2006):
You must be a newlywed. We do try our best to find something you like, but we arent going to be crushed if you take it back and get something you really like.
If you take it back and then just put the money in the bank, thats a real deflater.
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reader, stina +, writes (20 December 2006):
Hi Blondie,
This is always a hard spot to be in because you probably don't want to hurt his feelings or anything. If I were you, I would tell him that I didn't really care for it when I got it as a gift (but obviously you're still appreciative, right?). I mean, think about it this way - if you gave him something he didn't like, wouldn't you rather him have something that he cared for instead of something that he thought was awful? I know that it would annoy me if my husband pretended to like something I got for him and I found out. Plus if you don't wear the earrings he's going to know you don't like them anyway, don't you think? It's best to just be up front with him.
Take care.
PS - I have several wishlists online so this sort of thing doesn't happen too frequently (since everyone can see what I really want) - maybe you would want to consider doing something like this, even for your birthdays, etc. :)
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reader, bellachic385 +, writes (20 December 2006):
Don't pretend to like it, then you will be forced to wear it sometime so he knows you like it. Wait until you get it as a gift, then say nicely how you feel and that you rather have something else. Then go and pick out what you want. Say thanks, it's the thought that counts. Yes it was a mistake for him to leave it out but he didn't want you to see it.
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reader, tiny-problems +, writes (20 December 2006):
obviosuly, if its gold your husbands probably spent quite a bit of money on this present. but this is what i would do
"hey i seen some earrings in our room, they look really nice, not something i would wear though. are they for you mum/sister/friend?"
but you could tell him the truth and say "look i seen the earrings you got me for christmas im sorry but they're really not me."
i wouldnt do it on christmas day, it could really hurt his feelings.
good luck!
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