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*bbyk
writes:So I am 24 and have two babies and another on the way and my situation is that the father doesn't think we should be together because he feels that we just can not make it work. He lives with another woman and her children but they claim they are not together as a couple since she is still married. I don't know but I have tried and tried to move on but he always comes around trying to feel up on me and making it seem like he loves me sometimes but I know he doesn't love me like I love him and I need to let him go. Everyday I cry because it hurts so much to know that you will never be with the one you love because they don't love you back and its even harder with all of our babies. How do I get past him and move on? I deserve to be happy and I want to be over this, which has been going on for a few years now. Please help me and tell me how how do I get past this horrible time in my life?
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reader, abbyk +, writes (22 March 2014):
abbyk is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks so much for answering me. I have changed my number and stopped allowing him to visit us, yes I know it may seem wrong that I cut him out BUT he is stubborn and will not respect me. He always tries to force me to kiss him or hug him and I can't and he uses our children as leverage. When he takes them out, he will not give them back until I do what he asks and I get so frustrated! I am no longer pregnant, I lost my baby this past Monday and it was so sad. I buried him and his dad was not there ever not at the hospital and not at the burial. After he chose not to be by my side, I decided that I was done. I am not the emotional basket case he makes me out to be, he is. He can't see that I truly love him and want whats best for all of us and see that I truly wish he were happy so I can't give him anymore tears, time, or love. I lost my son this week and now I am going to focus on bettering myself for my children and I know one day I will marry a good guy who can love me as deeply as I can love. Thank you so much for the support, you guys just don't know how much I needed it.
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reader, KimPossiblee +, writes (18 March 2014):
 First you have to put your feelings aside, and put your health and children first, this unbalanced chemical hormone you are having will get by quickly once you learn how to control it. Think of the pros and cons out of this man. What do you benefit out of him besides hurt and confusion. I need you to be strong and move forward for your two children and the one on the way, There's tons of mother who raises three to four or even five kids on their own, if they can do it you can too! Don't depend on him emotionally, You have three kids that will need all that emotion. Im not saying youre a bad mother but I'm saying you are strong enough to bring three beautiful babies in this world then you sure can raise them w love and pride. BE STRONG AND MOVE ON, LIVE FOR YOUR KIDS,. and stop going back to him. You just have to stop. Again, be strong and respect yourself, and everything will fall on its own.
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reader, KimPossiblee +, writes (18 March 2014):
First you have to put your feelings aside, and put your health and children first, this unbalanced chemical hormone you are having will get by quickly once you learn how to control it. Think of the pros and cons out of this man. What do you benefit out of him besides hurt and confusion. I need you to be strong and move forward for your two children and the one on the way, There's tons of mother who raises three to four or even five kids on their own, if they can do it you can too! Don't depend on him emotionally, You have three kids that will need all that emotion. Im not saying youre a bad mother but I'm saying you are strong enough to bring three beautiful babies in this world then you sure can raise them w love and pride. BE STRONG AND MOVE ON, LIVE FOR YOUR KIDS,. and stop going back to him. You just have to stop. Again, be strong and respect yourself, and everything will fall on its own.
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reader, Sensible Alice  +, writes (10 March 2014):
 First of all, hugs to you. Being pregnant you are no doubt full of hormones that are making you more teary and emotional than you would normally be. From what you've written it seems that this man is not being faithful to either you or this other woman. I get that you want him to love you and be a father to the children and you all deserve that. But if his love is half-hearted and you're unsure of his trust, then for your own well-being you do need to move on. This means first breaking the emotional tie with him. Start by saying you can't have him in the house anymore - that's not to say he can't visit the children, because you still want that, but he can take them to the park or you can do some shopping or take a walk while he visits with them. Make it clear to him that you are not cutting him out of the children's lives, only your heart. Stand firm, once he knows you're not about to give in he'll get on with his own life.
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