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writes:Hi,i had just ended my 1 year realtionship yesterday. it is something i have to do. i thought it is the right thing to do..you see, we had been arguing for a long time.. i don't blame him 100%. both at fault. i hate the arguments and feeling sorrow everyday. we had tried, but we both have the attitude problem (i guess aas both are the youngest in big family). so, as hurtful as it is, i ended it. it was just not a healthy relationsip. it made me feel worthless and unappreciated.however, before i was leaving, he said something so hurtful 'i bet you are happy now right'. it is like he is accusing me. he also accused me of having another guy. i told him that all his accusations are not true and i begged him not to hurt me some more. but he did.now, i feel heartbroken and hurt and really sad.. i know i did the right thing.. but how come i wish he would fight it and prove me wrong..?
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reader, Lady Green +, writes (11 June 2014):
Lady Green is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi chickpea2011,
I am so sorry. I did not notice your comment before.
Honestly, I have been fine since September 2012. I took up a new lifestyle - eating healthier, losing weight and do outdoor activities. It is so much fun.. I also manage to do something I could not do before, travel oversea and take up a swimming lessons.. I even receive an offer to further my studied abroad.. I have much more going on now and I am happier and relieved that I am not with my ex..
Thank you so much for checking up on me.. I truly appreciate it :)
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reader, chickpea2011  +, writes (1 July 2012):
 Hi lady green,
It has been 7 mos now since it all started... How are you doing? What happened after you broke up with him? I remember him telling you "happy now?" Anything changed? Have you talk to him since the break up? I know it's difficult to let go of someone you love, specially when it was never your fault. I've been in your shoes before, and each person feels differently, but I know how it feels when you don't have the energy to do anything. Just doing the basic daily things are a struggle. Unfortunetly, there's nothing you can do to make the pain go away, but I promise you that it will get better, and each day it will get easier. In the beginning, you are going to take 2 steps forward, and 1 step back. But, one day this feeling will go away. I am glad that you are trying to make yourself busy. Just know that this will make you stronger. Just be positive, and know that one day you will meet someone that truly deserve you and will love you unconditionally. One day, you'll look back and you'll understand. There are better things for you in the future, and that's why bad things happened. Try to eat well, make yourself pretty everyday, that will make you feel better. When you feel better, you give positive energy and people treat you better. You will see.
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reader, Lady Green +, writes (30 June 2012):
Lady Green is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for answering my question.. You both are right.. I am not up for another roller coaster..
I made my decision. I am a not a bad person n I don't deserve this bad treatment..
Thank you to both of you..
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (25 May 2012):
Hi lady green,
Don't be sad because someone gave up on you. Feel sorry for them because they gave up on someone who would never give up on them.
Hope you are feeling better :)
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reader, WishIwasAKidAgain +, writes (17 May 2012):
Why do you need to be proved wrong? Do you not trust your own decisions? Or is breaking up with him something a friend told you to do? Maybe it is best to just let this one guy. It reminds me of a relationship I ended when i was 23. For years, we argued, broke up, and got back together before we both realized we were better off broken up. About 4 mos after we broke up, I receieved a letter from her telling me she was in a car accident and asked if I'd come see her. I ignored it, and we never spoke again. I'm not saying I didn't miss her. I did, but I knew where it would've went again and I wasn't up for the rollercoaster anymore.
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reader, Lady Green +, writes (16 May 2012):
Lady Green is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi chickpea2011,thank you for ur advice. my explanation may be misleading, am sorry for that. u see, he had been ignoring me starting the end of december. the matter got worst up until our anniversary where he did even bothered to wish it to me. i even called him that day and he refused to answer. things got worst n worst to the point where i actually don't feel like i had a boyfriend. that is why i believe breaking up is the right thing to do.i am still very sad though.. i really feel like i don't worth much to him.. i hate self pity, but i really feel so low right now.. i feel so heartbroken.. i keep myself busy and all, but i find difficult to sleep and once i fell asleep, i don't feel like waking up.. this is much more difficult breakup than b4..however chickpea2011, i am kinda relieved when u said 'The fact that he said: you happy now? Proves that he's not happy and kind of angry that you broke up with him'.. at least he feels something though.. thank you very much..
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (15 May 2012):
Hi lady green,
Sorry about the break up. Honestly, it has been only a day??? Maybe, since you admit it was the right thing to do for now, you admit it was part your fault, who knows?, few days, weeks, after getting some time away you both realize how much you care for another. I know you miss him now, after all you've been together for a year, it's normal to feel this way, miss him, regret, feels strange not being together, but sometimes taking a break for one another can be a good thing. Now, I don't want to give you hopes up, but this can be a final break up or can make you both stronger and better relationship than before. Believe me, he misses you too. The fact that he said: you happy now? Proves that he's not happy and kind of angry that you broke up with him. Honestly, I don't think it's over... But, only time can tell....
Best wishes and good luck
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