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female
age
30-35,
*onfusedwifeandmother
writes:Me and my husband have been married for 2 years. When we got married i knew he had a son. When he finally started getting his visitaion he was all excited and i was too because he finally gets to be part of his sons life. he goes down the park one day a week for 2 hours and plays with his son in group visitaion. it's always him, his son, and his ex gf. after the first few visits he started not wanting me to stop by if i forgot somnething in the car on my way to work. telling me that he would drop it off at my work after his vistation was over. every week a couple days before and after his visitation we are fighting. it seems to me like he's hiding something. on top of that he has been texting another one of his exes that claims to have had his daughter but refuses to take him to court. they don't ever talk about the child in these texts. i don't know what to think. if he just needs someone to talk to he can always come to me. i think it is much more than that though. what should i do about this?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (18 November 2010):
 Ok it does sounds really suspisious that he doesnt want you around when he is spending time with his ex and her son, ok i see why she would want to be there because she is a single mum and she probably doesnt want to leave her son there on his own until he gets to know his dad some more, but you are right to question why he doesnt want you calling down anymore ask him. It could be something as simple as he has been told by his ex that she only wants him to have contact with his son and not you, which she has the right to say this until he becomes a more steady feature in the wee boys life.
As for the other ex with the little girl, if he thinks that there is any chance this is his daughter then tell him to get a back bone and demand a dna if she refuses he can take her to court, she cant refuse to go to court therefore this is such a silly excuse tell him to be a man and face his responsibility, its better to do that now than years down the line a young woman coming to his door saying she is his daughter and wondering why 'daddy' never wanted her. Tell him he needs to sort this. As for him texting the ex, why does he feel the need to text and ex girlfriend? Of course this is going to make you feel insecure you are both married and should be sharing with each other not with ex partners, again tell him how this makes you feel and ask him why he feels the need to do this.
Also you are in the age range of 18-21 this is an awful lot of things to deal with for such a young girl as yourself, you have rushed in to alot of things. Tell him that he needs to concentrate on your marriage and concentrate on you both as a couple, go out together, have fun.
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female
reader, No watered down advice here! +, writes (17 November 2010):
 He's SELFISH, And being unfair! He cut you off from the visitation, that's WRONG or wrong! Either way you look at it's WRONG!!! He's may have another child or in the process of "MAKING" another one! Husband or NOT! Protect yourself from him! Go buy some CONDOMS today! And when he ask you why? You tell him ,WHY? Tell him he's keeping too many secrets! And you need to protect yourself JUSTIN CASE!For INSURANCE you won't catch anything until you find out the FACTS!
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