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writes:Well i posted on here before asking should i tell my gf about a drunken kiss. Well i decided to tell her b4 it was too late and she obviously didnt react too well she still wants to be with me though. Im not sure on what to do, i love her very much and want to stay with her, but i dont think she is really ever goin to forgive me and i cant forgive myself. We always used to think that we were a perfect couple and that we would never cheat on each other, now i have ruined her trust. If we stay together will we slowly grow apart? will we ever be able to be like we use to? I dont want to stay together if she is going to end up getting more hurt, i mean i'm never going to cheat on her again, but i dont want us to hav a miserable relationship.(mod note: writer submitted this in one long sentence which was almost illegible , I've done my best to make it readable :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2007): hey dear! i was exactly in the same situation you are in now. well for my bf it was very very hard to forgive me but he did. it happened a month ago, and thinks is working out again for us like it was in the beginning. to be honest we're even more closer now. you just have to prove to her that you are really really sorry about what you did. just keep on giving her unexpected hugs, kisses and suprises. because that's what i did and surely it worked. wish you the best. TAKE CARE
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reader, PM  +, writes (6 November 2007):
 It's good that she found out through you since at the very least she can trust you to be honest, but you've definitely spiked the relationship. It's unlikely it'll ever go back to the way it was before. Women have a really hard time ever forgetting something and it doesn't work to your advantage here.
What she now fears from you is that you'll leave. You've shown that other women are attracted enough to you to kiss you. You've shown that if you are uninhibited enough that'll you get physical with someone else. What you must do is reassure her. If you guys are sexual, then have sex with her. Express how much you care about her through love making. If you guys are not physical, then you have to tell her why she is unique and special to you. What's the one thing about her that you're not going to get from another girl? Find it and remind her of it. Maybe it's a collection of things. Whatever it is, you need to provide some kind of reassurance that you're not going to disappear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2007): Okay. Firstly, I'm a girl in a serious relationship and I'm 20 years old.
I know if my boyfriend did this to me, I would be extremely upset, but I love him so I'm not sure if I would want to break up or not.
You need to REALLY make this up to her. Prove you're for real, but in the end she is going to need some time to get over this. But you can still show her how you feel and that you are FULLY committed to this relationship.
Honestly, just don't fuck up anymore. Try to consider your girlfriends feelings and maybe don't get so wasted if you're not sure you can control yourself.
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