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writes:Oh goodness I'm so confused! I don't know what to do. Seriously. This is probably going to long. I'll try and shorten it.OK, the thing is this:I've been with my fiance for almost two years, and engaged for one year. I love him, of course I do. After about two months of us going out, he introduced me to his mates. And there's this one mate that I though was cute right away. But I got over it pretty much right away. Then from round about christmas last year, all three of us started going out to clubs and stuff together. And then it slowly started back up again. I mean, I'm a natural flirt anyway, I can't help it, alot of the time it doesnt mean anything, its just how I feel comfortable talking to guys, and my fiance knows that. But there was this one time when we were out, my fiance went to the toilet and me and his mate were flirting with each other. I don't know if he was just reacting to me doing it, or if he was actually interested.Anyway, I forgot about him again because I hadn't seen him for ages. But about three weeks ago, he got my MSN addy off of my fiance. No idea why but....Argh...I started liking him again! And I can't stop thinking about him and I'm so mad at myself for it because I am so in love with my fiance, yet I'm constantly thinking about his mate!I really don't know how to get over him. It seems that everytime I see him, or talk to him that's when it's worse. Please don't lecture me about this. I know I shouldn't be thinking about him but I can't help it. And I'm not even thinking about acting on it, I just want to get over it!I hope this made sence. Please help!! Thanks in advance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2009): I know exactly what you mean
You love your boyfriend
But apart of your mind is against you telling you, that you do have feelings and u feel horrible about it.
Its okay that you think about things but just dont act on it. That person may pop in your head but you gotta know that its your actions that make you know what you want. Your behaving and doing whats best, that means thats what you want, why would you feel bad if you didnt want to be with your boyfriend. You should just keep less contact and really just remember how far you have gone with your boyfriend. People go through this thats why people who cheat always regret it because they realised its not what they wanted, dont fall for the same mistake, stay strong sister!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2009): Hey Hun,I know how you feel, I'm in the same situation at the moment, just explain to his mate, see what he says cos you could be working yourself up to get nothing out of it and if he feels the same well go from there but if not just say okay well lets forget it then and carry on with ya life.I know it's really hard but if you don't ask you'll never know! Anyway, good luck babe!!Lots of love Lau xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2008): hiya hunnie speakin from personal experiance i think you should at least snog his mate and see where it leads 2 and who can please you more hehe
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2007): oh my god ahy, snap. i really duno wot to do eh. i lv my b.f 2 bt i fancy the arse of is mate n am sooo confused. the second i find a solution i will letya know. gud luck. xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2007): Hi love,
I wont lecture you, just imagine if it was the other way round and it was your fiance who had a thing for your mate. You can be friends but if you feel like this then i would keep the contact with your b/fs mate to only when your b/f is around, i no you said you wouldnt act on it but he may have other ideas you never no what he may be reading into. You wouldnt want anything to come between you and your b/f just be aware that the flirting bit on both sides may have given him food for thought and he may be feeling the same and picking up on your feelings. ok hun you take care LOTS OF LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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