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writes:Hey people ive got a problem,i currently have a girlfriend but every time im with her, i subconsciously look at other women's behinds or breasts?!i know its a bad thing but i dont do it on purpose! weve been together for about months now and she means alot to me..how the heck do i stop this?! i never seem to remember where i was looking as-well?! dont know if that helps.. but ive explained to her and she understands thankfully.. but i just want to stop it!?!!!!HELP!!
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reader, AnnaW219 +, writes (27 February 2010):
 Look This is not bad at all the reason why she understands is becuase very man does this it is natural i bet your girlfriend does the same thing it doesn't meen you want to leave your partner it just says you are a natural human being and also says you are hetrosexual
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 February 2010):
Naturally you will do it. Nearly everyone, including your girlfriend, will look at another attractive person and check them out. It isn't a bad thing, so long as you don't make it obvious and don't act on it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2010): That's one of those things that no man is ever going to stop doing. Now, looking at other women when you're with your girl is completely disrespectful and I'm suprised that your girl would tolerate that and is still with you. It's a natural response to how we are as men. Some guys look and some don't.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (27 February 2010):
 It's only wrong when your girlfriend catches you drooling over them. Otherwise, looking at women satisfies your curiosity. It's healthy too. A woman's body is beautiful and soothing. You don't spend 24 hours a day looking at your girlfriend and she won't be naked every time you are with her. You probably won't get married any time soon. So until then, when you are alone spend as much time looking at other women on the computer. Different shapes and sizes. Like voyeur web. Never let other people tell you it's sexist. Repressing your need for curiosity does not make it go away. Be guilt free. I know your girlfriend means a lot to you but let's face it, variety is the spice of life. The fantasy is to have them all. Reality only allows us to be with one person at a time. The more experience you have the less compulsion to look at women.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2010): That's completely normal and all you can do is try to not to act interested in the people you stare at, so you don't wreck what you have with your gf. Every sexually active guy looks and so does every sexually active girl. Some look at a few, and some, many, but they're all the same, because they all look. Most people won't admit it, because they're afraid of ruining how people judge them and their reputation, but it's just like masterbating, we all do it..In fact, if you watch your gf every now and then without being obvious about it, you'll catch her doing it to, but don't get hurt by it, because it's completely normal for her to be attracted to and lust over certain types of guys, even if you don't like the type of guys she looks at. She might not like the types of girls you think are attractive or beautiful, either, but too bad, because in the same regard, she'll have to catch you doing that too, the rest of your life, if she watches your eyes enough. It's a fact of life, that we all sin and lust, because we're only human and we are constantly tempted. To go after what tempts us and follow through with it would be a whole different story, and would most likely destroy what you and your gf have, unless she and yourself are interested in multiple partners, such as threesomes and such.. If not, just keep it at looking, staring and lusting. I wouldn't get too concerned about how she feels about you looking or lusting, because like I say, she's doing the same thing, guaranteed, whether it's when you're around or when you're not around. It's harmless, unless you follow through with the temptation and make it an issue with flirting or sex. As long as you keep it in your pants, she should feel pretty secure with you, staring or not.
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