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writes: Hi, I am having trouble with my own mind. I keep feeling like my girlfriend is going off me. We have been going out for nearly 7 months now, and she doesn't seem to want to come to my house. The only time I can see her is if I go to her house or we meet in town. I don't no what to do, and how to sort out my mind. I love her so much and I believe that she loves me too, but I don't want to keep thinking: Is she going off me? Is she cheating on me? How can I improve our relationship? etc.I need help.Can anyone help me please? I'm desperateash Reply to this Question
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reader, w4rkq  +, writes (3 September 2011):
you have to replace your fear by one more powerful thingconfidence is more powerful then feartalking with your girl friend about it is good too =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2005): hey, im 16 and i had the same problem, but i talked 2 her about it, we have been together for 14 months, and i love her to bits, she just wanted space, i was wanting to see her to much, all the time i would be around her wanting her attention, it didnt work, it turned her more and more away. just give her space, no tto much, but enough that she will enjoy the time she spends with you
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reader, Kitten-Man +, writes (16 April 2005):
I may have only had a primary school girlfriend (lol) but the same thing happened to me and it was all in my mind. Try not to act clingy or desperate like I did. I ended up asking her if she had a crush on basically everyone in the class! You don't know whats happening. There might be a phase in her life where she's very anti-social like I used to be.I hope you've kissed though. If you haven't then this may be a good way to spice it up, lol! JUst find a way to prove to her that you like her a lot.Go to the park. She may feel embarrassed towards your parents. Try going somewhere else fun or romantic. Maybe after a week or so of this ask her about your problems. In a serious relationship, it's always best to never let anything bottled up. You might end up saying or doing something you may regret.
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reader, floy346 +, writes (15 April 2005):
I don't have a magic answer that will make all the fears disappear 'in the blink of an eye' but I feel compelled to say somthing to you. Me and my girlfriend seemed to be drifting with no obvious reason. I started to doubt both my girlfriend's feelings and her honesty. I thought of her cheating and all the things us men feel when insecurity creeps in but instead of talking I dwelled on those fears and they started to eat away at me.Don't make the mistakes I have! Talking even about things that aren't easily broached, like your fears, is important. I found out that my fears and my insecurities were unfounded and I let them consume me before I new whether there was any substance to them.So tell her your fears and deal with anything that can come in between you, like your abilities to communicate with your girlfriend.I hope it helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2005): I do not think she is cheating on you. If she was, she would have left you by now, or you would of figured it out by others letting you know. She may be afraid to come over. Does she like meeting new people? Talk to her about it and tell her how you feel. It is the best solution!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2005): She doesn't want to go to your house? But you can go to hers or meet her somewhere. Sorry but the first thing it makes me think is that your house might either be dirty or that she doesn't like someone you room with, or that you will attack her when she gets in the door. Look at the symptoms first. Or talk about it.
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