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writes:I've never kissed my boyfriend, but i kissed another guy, my first kiss, and i hate to think i did. I feel awful and it makes me want to be sick!I just wish i could have untouched lips again. What can I do to forget? Reply to this Question
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reader, sarcy24 +, writes (3 November 2008):
 I suggest you give your teeth a really good brush and use mouth wash and then clean your face and lips as carefully as you can so in your remind you are removing all trace of this first kiss. This kiss didn't mean anything to you so now it has gone.
I had the same thing with a ring that someone bought me - the ring was only touched by me and the man who gave it to me and then one day I took it off to show another girl and she put it on her finger. I felt the spell and bond had been broken between us.
I washed my hand and the ring really carefully and it helped as if i was washing her off me and you may feel it works for you - washing this other man away.
In time this worry will fade and when you get kissed by the boy you like it will go away instantly.
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reader, Kuroneko  +, writes (3 November 2008):
It's hard to get the same feeling of purity back. Know that it's excellent that you even feel this way and you don't take the issue of kissing lightly. If you can forgive yourself this and come to accept that it was the past, it might help...
Also, discussing this with someone trusted or even your boyfriend maybe help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008): You are very sweet and thoughtful to have such strong desires to be 'pure' for someone you care about.
Realize that it is unrealistic to think that you will never kiss another boy---and each one you will not be able to be 'pure' for. While it may feel awful, it is life. The difficulty you feel is part of growing up and learning to be okay with yourself even when you make decisions you may feel were mistakes. There is a lot more coming your way---trust me on that one! But you're going to do fine.
However, kissing is different than some of the bigger, more important choices that will face you later while dating. I think you should continue to consider slow, well thought about decisions.
Take things slow, despite what ANYONE tells you. These are all your decisions to make. You live with the outcomes, they don't.
And if you make a mistake---it doesn't change who you are. YOu may not be able to change your decision, but you can march forward more confident making better deicisons next time because now you understand the outcome.
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reader, gr8gabe  +, writes (2 November 2008):
Don't worry to much about it. If he really likes you he won't care because he has you. Also don't feel that you have to kiss him now, you should kiss when you are both ready.
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