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writes:Alright this has been on my mind sort of like crazy, but before i started dating my boyfriend there was this guy that i was really good friends with and he liked me. but when i started dating my boyfriend he really didnt like the fact i talked to someone who likes me, and when the year was over he didnt want us signing yearbooks. and i felt really bad because me and him are still friends. but i feel like i abandoned him, or just left him in the dust. and i want to talk to him just to say hey and say sorry for that, but i know he hates me. because he ignores my myspace messages and comments. but i really want to still be friends with him.what should i do?
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (3 August 2008):
 Are you sure that he ignores your myspace comments and messages and not because he hasn't signed in for a long time?
I'm sorry that your boyfriend tells you this, but tell him that you wish to keep a friendship with the guy because he's a good person. Yes, he may like you, but assure your boyfriend that you don't like him at all and that he is the only guy for you. He may be understanding, or he may not, but tell him that he has to respect your wishes. It's not like you have done anything to make him suspect you, and that he has to get on reality: you will talk to people who may like you and that nothing will probably happen.
Now, if your friend doesn't want communication at all (assuming that he really is ignoring you), then just stop trying and let him come to you. I know you really want to talk to him and you feel guilty for not doing so, but you can't force a person into talking to you again. He may still be hurt for you going with someone else and for actually be happy and not with him, and talking to you makes it harder for him to deal with it.
Leave him alone for a while. Let him get over the fact you're with someone else and let him realize that he shouldn't jeopardize a good friend for his own feelings. You have tried to contact him with no sucess, so now you have to wait for him to contact you back. Send him a last (private) message, telling him that you'll be there waiting for him as a friend and that you really want to talk to him again, and that you see him as a great friend that you don't want to lose.
Good luck and I hope for you a bright future.
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