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41-50,
*atika
writes: SOMETIMES I FEEL VERY LOW N DEPRESSED COZ OF MY PAST PLZ HELP ME!!Well , i had a relationship with a guy for around two and half years years, the thing in the begening of the relationship only he asked me to have sex ,which i was not ready at all,but he told if i don he will break up wit me,so i i didn want any break up i did it. but my this whole experience was not good as it was not love. i always felt i m just being used not loved. There is not only one reason for me to think like that he even use to cheat on me. he was dating some more girls behind by back and i knew that but i still couldnt break up with him. sometime even after making love i use to cry. i knew this relationship is not good for me but i was just addicted to it.i use to cry almost everyday that this is happening to me. now the problem is the guy is no more , he met with an accident almost 2 years ago i was still with him when this happened.i still cant forget the whole incident n its bothering me alot. i have a boy friend whom i m dating since 4 months. i m scared if i will tell him that m not virgin may be he will leave me.i just don know wat to do?? i just want to forgive myself n my x .and move ahead in life. PLZ help me What m i suppose to do??
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reader, Psychiatric61 +, writes (19 March 2009):
Hey,First of all, you're not on your own, I know a lot of people that have been through experiences similar to yours, and they have got through it.If you tell your boyfriend about the experience you had, you will feel better because it will be out of your system, to someone who you have strong feelings for.And if he really loves you, he will comfort you, he will completely understand.And he wouldn't care if you were a virgin or not, not if he truly loved you.You just have to be confident, and just explain to him what happened.Once you've got it out of your system, you can move on with him, and move forward, and spend ur future with HIM.Lastly, if you are suffering from depression, see your local GP, im sure they could subscribe you with some anti-depressants.I wish you well.Psychiatric61 xx
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