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writes:im 17, and this is quite a pathetic situation really but i spent all of last summer with my ex, it was the best summer i had, im really strict with the lads i get with andd he seemed perfect for me. first met him in a club january 2009, was toldd he thinks hes a player and i laughed at him trying to kiss all the pretty girls. and when he came on to me i took it as a joke. didnt really find him too attractive anyway so he just blew over my sholder really. he soon added me on facebook...he got my number off a friend i thought he was a bit of a wierdo. and we were texting, still me with no interest. and basically he chased me for about 3 months, i told him i didnt want to be with him as i had no interest in him what so ever..he would not give up. i wanted other people! i would see him in clubs sometimes when id be out with friends .. hed flip whenever id start talking to other people but would soon enough get a text saying he doesnt want to told a grudge or that he wants to be friends.. wierdo, i hardly knew him. we could have a laugh and talk alot but i never saw him as anything other than ..a friend. not even that tbh. but one day when college had just finished for summer around may 2009 i acidentally bumped into him in town andd thought he was rather gorgeous hed changed loads looked stunning:). it occurred to me that he had friends, hobby, work, college doing well in everything and he deffinatly did want me after 5 months of constant pesting.. we had a flirt and he came mine the next day.. after we went out a few times i felt totally myself around him i felt lucky to have found someone who ticked all the boxes. we had such a good summer! the sex was amazing. my parents loved him, his family and friends were great! nobody compared to him. i loved being with him. think i fell for him, i dont know but i think. ..he was going on 'a lads holiday' for two weeks August 2009 on the day i got back from my two week holiday with family. soo 4 weeks apart. it was agony! i couldnt waitttt to get home! when he got back things were great i missed him SOO much!.. things were greatt we made up for lost time ;)! but things seemed off after a while. he started to look through my phone flipping at any boy who was just a friend. bringing up past flings of mine. i didnt want him to control me so i told him i wasnt going to stop texting my friends :S he hated that. and hed told me he kissed someone after a night out. i forgave him. :/ things dimmed..he never wanted to call anymore or send raunchy pics.. hardly had time or will to see me the sex was ..:/ he broke on me.. worst experience ever. the spark went :/ we continuously broke up and got back together during which hed got off with other girls, text me horrible texts, called me horrible names, tell his friends.. and mine that id been texting so many people .. i couldnt believed how hed changed. it broke my heart and he knew exactly what he was doing i dont know why hed want to? we split up for good.. in october. hes had other girl friends .. that have lasted a week or two. it broke my heart that he wanted nothing to do with me. i couldnt accept it. i still texted him and rang him distraught down the phone. he didnt care. wanted nothing to do with me. i felt like i was pesting him! ive been severly depressed and pictures ive seen on facbook of him and other girls, i quit my job from not going in. i just couldnt stop crying, i blocked myself from friends and my college grades went down dramatically i didnt care about anything my family were so worried. looking at him seeing he was fine confused me so much. what was wrong with me? i guess im getting better now, back in contact with friends grades are better 2 jobs. maybe i was just weak. ive been so strong in any other relationship, he wasnt my first? and i dont know if he was my fist love? i think i did love him. but now i just want to forget him. im doing better now but i still get upset, at the worst of places even in college or work ill just get all teary eyed.. night times are the worst. i just want to forget him ...it still hurts. my family are still really worried. i jus want to know if theres anyone the same as me? and any suggestions :/ x
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reader, babymonkey422  +, writes (11 March 2010):
 Well first off I just want to commend you on getting yourself through this enough to work again, talk to friends and family and try to get your back life. That's a really tough thing to do... I think your next step in getting over all this hurt is maybe to try to see a counselor or go online and read tips and advice. There's books out there on learning how to move on from something that was so traumatic for you. I know for me what helps is knowing that I'll be better eventually, it just takes time so in the meantime I keep myself busy by doing things I love. Reading, bubble baths, playing games, hanging out with a good friend, walking, ect ect... time will heal all. Good luck hun...
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