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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years and just had a baby 7 weeks ago. We have had some times apart since our relationship started andI spent most of the pregnancy alone. He moved out days before I found out I was pregnant and decided he was willing to work on things a couple months before the baby was born and didn't move back in until he was born. I told him i didn't want to work things out just because we have a baby together and he says that is not why. However he gives me no attention unless it has to do with sex. I feel alone all the time even when he is here. Video games the computer and his family and friends are all he seems to have time for. He never wants to do anything with me. I can't even get him to play a board game or cards with me. he won't even watch tv with me. He says we are not interested int he same shows and he doesn't like games. (other than video games.) I want things to work out but I am so tired of feeling alone all the time and not having anyone to talk to even thought he is just across the room. He talks to his brother on XBox live and they play the game together all the time. I don't feel I am wanted, and have questioned why he is even here. I don't know what to do anymore. I cook clean and take care of the kids. ( I have another child from a previous relationship.) I don't know what to do anymore. I hope someone can give me some good advice. I just want to be happy together and not feel alone and sad all the time. I am tired of feeling like I am not good enough for him.. Pleas help.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (20 January 2011):
 Ok you need to kick him in to action and show him that his behaviour is unacceptable. Some evening after the children go to bed sit down with him and tell him to put down the x box control and have a talk with you. Tell him how you feel and be clear to him that the relationship is not going to work unless he starts putting some effort in to it. Ok so you both dont watch the same kind of shows but am sure there are plenty of other things that you can do as a couple. Tell him how alone you feel and you dont see this relationship working unless he makes an effort to spend some quality time with you. Give him a time limit and say to him he has that time to prove to you he wants to be with you. Goodluck.
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