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writes:Hello. I'm in a really tough situation. I have been in a committed relationship for 4 years, but there has been no sexual chemistry for a year due to health problems. I finally got tired of not being satisfied so 2 months ago things got pretty wild and i had sex with an ex i'd been talking to on and off for the past year. I feel bad, but not remorseful. I do care for this other guy, but I will always put my boyfriend before him. I guess he got tired of that because he has completely cut me off. It kills me to not have him, and now I am going through depression and i'm miserable without him. As much as i care for the other guy i just want sex from him and to feel desired. I have all the love and support I need at home. I'm just having a hard time adjusting to dealing with someone who literally cant give me sex when i need it. I'm young still, who would have known this is what i would be going through with someone 2 years older than me? What should i do? I've never been so confused. Reply to this Question
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reader, Melaniee +, writes (1 July 2012):
 90% out of a 100% my husband turns me down every time I throw myself at him, he said I totally killed him mood lol but whenever I just sat there and watch TV bored out of mind for some unknown reason he's always in the mood (weird) maybe talk to him first and find out why he act like that, ask him if he's not interested in you, tell him he makes you feel ugly when he refuses to touch you or something lol maybe that will do the trick :)
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (29 June 2012):
 Contrary to popular myth, men are actually repulsed by women who throw themselves at them.
If a guy thinks your hot he may have sex with you, but if the guy has decided he isn't 'into' you, flinging yourself before him is going to make him run...especially if you already have a boyfriend...
I think you are looking at misery and heartache.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (28 June 2012):
 If a man had written this post he would be tied to the post and horsewhipped by now. Not that I'm making any excuse, heck I'll bring the rope. This is not the way to resolve a sexual difficulty in a "committed relationship"
Intimacy is intimacy is intimacy. I can't pound on that point enough. You have emotional intimacy with your long term partner. You have sexual intimacy with your ex. You are confused, of course you are confused you don't know where your attachments are.
You feel rejected by your committed partner, but he hasn't rejected you. You feel attached to your ex, but he has rejected you, and for good reason. You offer him the chance to be used in a half relationship. No one wants that. He wants a whole connection.
ok What should you do? This is some pretty hard advice that someone should have given you about 10 months ago. you claim to be committed. You will need to be to do this. You and your committed partner are going to have to reinvent sex in a way that satisfies your needs and that is possible for him. It is going to take creativity, and flexibility and lots and lots of communication. I'm sorry to say there are pit falls and mistakes and even frustration, but committed people can get through that.
Let me give you directions to think in. All it takes to feel desired is a lustful look. A few words would leave no doubt. Can he do that? All you need for sexual satisfaction is a regular orgasm. Is there a way you can get that without bringing in another person?
What your relationship needs is intimacy. how you get it is by sticking together and sharing everything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2012): How does your boyfriend feel about you shagging other guys? if he's okay with that then you need to find one of the many guys out there who will have no problem having casual sex with you.
If he's not or he doesn't know then it's time you opened up to him and talked to him. As far as your ex goes he's a scumbag, sleeping with another guys woman, he's also an ex for a reason so you really should forget about him as he's no good.
Two things OP, either tell your current boyfriend what's going on or if he's already okay with it then just find a random fuck buddy somewhere, it won't be hard to find one.
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