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writes: My long term girlfriend/fiancee has recently dumped me and I am almost pass the loss/grief stage. She moved in very shortly with another guy I thought she might be seeing someone else. I want revenge now, nothing nasty, just something to make me laugh as I have been through so much pain and lies, enough to last a life time. She has everything now and hasn't suffered at all through this. Do you have any suggestions for revenge? Please don't say "just get over her and on with your life - this is the best revenge" I know this. I feel cheated and don't think she should get off scott free. I have been so nice to her through all of this, and still love her dearly, I just need somthing to make me laugh now as well as some honest advice to help me through. Thanks for your help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2006): shake her hand and say THANKS HUN!
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (28 June 2006):
 You don't need revenge you need closure. I won't tell you to get over it or move on. Thats the same crap people fed me but trust me she will get hers and you won't even have to be around to see it but you will know. It might make you laugh and it might make you cry seeing as how you still love her. Go out and find somebody, anybody. She could be a friend or a friend of a friend. Let her dress up really sexy and go to a hang out you know your ex will be and parade this sexy woman all around the room. Don't acknowledge your ex or her man or friends. Have a drink or two and make sure you leave before she does. Seeing that you have moved on and happy without her will hurt her more than some shallow, unorthodoxed revenge revenge tactic. You will see the disgust on her face or hear about it through the grapevine. That should be enough to get you through and its not really revenge its just dating totally natural. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2006): Yea...if you seek revenge it shows you still care about her and proves that she has hurt you. Why give her the satissfaction of that huh??!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2006): Perhaps the best way is to let her know you can and will live a happier, fulfilling life without her. But why don't you just turn the other cheek, be the better person, learn from this life experience and heal. It takes time and self-care but you will recover, and then you truly will feel better. And isn't that what you really want anyway? Hang in there and I am sorry you are hurting. Take Care
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2006): I know how you feel mate. Its just not fair. She found someone else and then you broke up. Why do people do this as it is so selfish. Want revenge? I have been toying with the idea of sending my ex's new boyfriend, who she was cheating on me with and who I know was taking the piss out of me all along, photos of the two of us doing stuff. Then send a note attached saying, picture this everytime you kiss her mate. If this was your new girl friend how would you feel. I think it was seriously mess him and her up. I haven't done this yet but still considering it. They say "once a cheater always a cheater" or "what goes around comes around" but for people in the real world life isn't fair so why should people get away with treating others like crap.
Good luck
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reader, camille  +, writes (28 June 2006):
 I'm sorry, no revenge tactics, just a note. Ignore your ego. The fact you still love her isn't the only reason you are seeking revenge. You say it's for laugh, but it isn't, nor would it make you laugh forever. You say she has everything now, but so could you if you stop thinking this way. You are not her, so don't know what she's been through during this time, but that's not for you to worry about. The plain truth is she didn't want to be with you anymore and whether she took a week or a year to be with someone else, your ego has taken a beating too. If you'd moved on first, you wouldn't be bothered about getting your own back. Surely the best revenge is for you to be happy? If you think she cheated, you're better off without her. See that you weren't meant to be with this woman so she's done you a favour. Stop wasting precious life on something that is actually not going to help in the long term. If you want a laugh, go see some comedy or a funny film.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2006): How sad and immature you are kiddo! I see you stamping your feet in a tantrum saying: 'Tis not fair, tis not fair, tis not fair!! Boo hoo!' Life is full of knocks laddy. Revenge is a stupid idea. You will only ending up looking moe of a twat then you already are. Pllleaaase get a life man.
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