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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Help! My husband and I have been married for almost 3 yrs. I have one child from a previous marriage that ended due to emotional and some physical abuse. I left when my son was 8months old knowing I couldn't live my whole life unhappy and needed to put my son 1st. I reconnected w/my highschool sweetheart and married 2yrs after my divorce. We had another son less than a yr later and I'm now pregnant with our third due in a few months. Everything was perfect. Now that we've been married my husband doesn't know how communicate with me very well. Sometimes I feel like he communicates with his family and friends more than he does me. For instance when ever he needs advise before making a huge dicision he will almost always ask his moms opinion on it 1st. When he decided to take a new job promotion at work which involved traveling, he told his mom he took the job before telling me. (keep in mind my husband has the personality that he is always right, he's very stubborn.) I've told him plenty of times how I feel and that certain conversations should be between a husband and wife 1st. He always thinks I'm over reacting. Now that we have 2 kids and 1 on the way we are very busy and don't find a lot of time to ourselves. When the kids go to bed, he's usually sitting in another room watching sports. I feel like that should be a time we could be communicating with each other. On top of all that there is not a weekand that goes by that he's not trying to make plans with friends to come over and hang out. I've tried expressing my feelings that every weekand is too much for me, and that I would like to make plans for just him and I. It's a chore to him to hangout with just his wife. He doesn't understand that I need that. On top of all that when I try talking to him about my feelings he gets angry because he thinks I'm "BITCHING" when he loses his cool he sometimes starts throwing things at me and the remote was a little to far for me to handle. I just don't understand the things he does after everything he knows I've been through in my past. I'm not saying I'm perfect, because I'm definetly not! How can I get him to see me. I know he loves me. He blames his parents for not being able to show affection, but I think he uses that as an excuse. I just want my husband to show he loves me more.
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