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female
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writes:I am not someone who normally takes things personally or to heart but I have been overwhelmed lately by the negative reinforcement I have been getting by people I go to school with. I am a senior in college, just transferred, and while some might think my problem is simply on account of being the "new girl", it really isn't that at all. I am fine being the new student but it seems that a lot of the people that I have come to interact with instantly hold something against me and I don't know what it is. I am friendly and try to be accommodating to everyone and yet I continuously get snide and rude comments made to me and I just don't understand it. It seems like people in class want to try and make me look stupid by critiquing my statements illogically (without an academic basis) or they (including the instructor) try to marginalize what I say. Have you ever walked into a room and felt like everyone was just talking about you or that people really weren't happy to see you there? That is what I get everyday.What can I do?I don't understand it. Should I just sit down and shut-up? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2009): A lot of schools have programs for students who have transferred- check and see if your college has one. This way you can find others like you who may be feeling the same way. If there are counselors available to talk to, you might want to talk to one about your feelings about trying to adjust/fit in. I'm saying this because I went through exactly what you went through. I also transferred colleges. I came from a big university and transferred to a small college. Major difference. I felt like an outsider and uncomfortable in the classroom at times. But talking to someone might help you out. Try to be friendly with everyone, keep on smiling, and get involved with clubs or other activities. Hang in there!!
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