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writes:I just told my boyfriend about my one night stand after drinking which happen 2 weeks ago.. I decided to tell him because I dun want to lie to him.. Now he said that he needs times and also will go back to his parents house for couple of days.( we are stay together) . Before ge left, he saw my tears and ask me not to cry anymore. Does a man really can forgive and forget about this incident? We have been in relationship for 7 years in total. And in between we broke up once because he dated some one shen I was away for 4 months. After a year, I decided to bavk with him becausevi really really love him ..
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2010): Well trust is very hard to build and very easy to loose. Obviously you are at wrong side of deeds. You need to do every thing that will help him re-build trust. But believe me as a general rule, your character and values will always be question mark in his mind for very long time to come. it will heal but take long time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2010): You just need to wait and see how he feels. Being cheated on is a very hurtful thing and it may take a while to build back the trust.
Sometimes people can forgive being cheated on. Just as you did when he started dating someone else.
The key thing is that you were honest with him. He obviously cares about you a great deal as I told you not to cry anymore. Just give him time to think things through. Seven years is a long time, so hopefully he will be able to forgive you. I know this might not be what you want to hear... But you're just going to have to sit it out until he's decided what he wants to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2010): I think you guys should talk about what type of relationship you want. You may very well love each other, but you may be better off as friends, or consider a more open relationship. Think about the future, do either of you want kids? Etc. You've both cheated but you did the right thing. Write your thoughts down. Send him a letter, not an email. Or just speak face to face when you get a chance. Hope it works out for you.
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