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writes:Hey,Okay. Long story short. I'm 16, I dated this guy for about 3 months who I really liked and he claimed to really like me back. It WASN'T official, we were not in a proper relationship. We didn't kiss or anything and I recently had an injury and he found someone else to be his girlfriend.I'm upset by it, but I'm over it and I know hes a player and he hurt me. He told my friend that I wasn't "beneficial" (in other words he wanted sex and he wanted to feel me up and he knew I wouldnt let him)But I'm having difficulty thinking that theres someone out there for me. I'm not the type to go out of my way to meet new guys and look for guys to date.I dont look for love, I let it come to me.Because I think it's the best way. I'm 16, never been kissed and all my friends are so happy in relationships and I wonder, is there any guy who's gonna like me for me? My ex only wanted me for benefits that I wouldnt give him, so he doesnt count.I just seem to think I'm not going to find anyone until i'm like 19-20. And I really think there's no one out there who's going to treat me right. All my friends keep saying "you're so pretty, any guy would be lucky to have you". But I don't see any.I've just been waiting 16 years, and I wanna know what it feels like.I really cant explain how I'm feeling, but I've tried putting it into words.x
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reader, Replacement  +, writes (15 August 2008):
 There is nothing wrong with not finding anyone until you're 19-20... for most people, it takes even longer than that... we go through countless relationships, looking for the one that will treat us right, one that we can love and cherish. It's a game of trial and error. The vast majority of relationships fail. It's part of the growing process as individuals learn who they are and what they want in life, and partners become disposable along the way. Keep doing what you're doing, focus on developing yourself as an individual. Being single gives you a unique opportunity to do whatever you want, whenever you want. This is something people in relationships can't do so easily. Take advantage of it, pursue your own interests, develop who you are. Enjoy being single. That way when your true love does come around you won't have any regrets.
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reader, junebug  +, writes (15 August 2008):
Hey ever think since ur so pretty guys are scared to talk 2 u or ask u out?im pretty ,big boobs and all(i hate to say it im not showing off please done think that)well all my friends had sex and boyfriends and i had nothing i lied and said i kissed boys and this and that but now im 20 ive been with my man for 3 yrs .living 2gether about 2 get married.i actucally was dating this guy who was my best friends boyfriends lil brother.well things wasnt workin out he never wanted to spend time with me so my best friend hooked me up with his best friend! And thats who im with now.he is so hott.never would i ever think i would be with him.then through out dating him so many guys i knew before told me"it sucks u guys are getting serious bcuz i always thought u was pretty and just was scared 2 tell u" wow!even my bff's b/f said that.u never know i was to shy 2 ask and apparnetly they was too! Im bigger and never really had good feelings about myself til then.and be happy u never had ur heartbroken...it hurts:(
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2008): ok first of all u seem like a very nice girl let me tell u a little story k. i felt the same way all my friends had someone to call there own and i didnt then everything changed.my sister had ask me if i wanted to meet one of her friends and i said no cause i didnt feel pretty i didnt have the nicest clothes then she keept asking me until i got tired of listening to her so i meet the guy i was 15 when i meet him and he was the most handsom guy i ever saw and he liked me for who i was i didnt start datiing this guy right away i waited 6 months then he ask me if i wanted to be his girlfriend and i said yes then he moved in with me and my family then i gat kicked out of my house at the age of 16 b cause i wouldnt help my mom out cause she took advantage of me she told him if u realy love my daughter u take her with u and he did then we moved down to florida and im still with him i got pregnant at the age of 17 had my first kid then i got pregnant again and had my son until this day were still together and married. My point to u is u will find that special person u want to b with or he will find u just keep doing what makes u happy dont try to b like u friends just to show them that ur not a loser cause ur not every girl is beautiful they have something spacial everyone is diffrent what i would do if i was u is finish my school get a good degree and if a nice guy comes ur way during that time take ur time in the relation ship dont rush anything cause when u rush things they never turn out right take it from experience yes u guys are gonna have ruff times but thats what makes a relation ship stronger im 21 years old and with 2 young kids and i wished i would off finish school b4 i had them but u know what i dont regret anything i love them and i love my husband and im sure u will find someone just take ur time with it. I hope this help us wit ur question and hope u understand were im coming from take care.
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