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writes:I am already an agony aunt on here and i know this isnt a relationship question but i guess all i'm looking for is someone who understands. I have a rare form of amnesia which means i can only remember the last 6 weeks of my whole life, i'm dealing with it quite well but its the outside world i get abuse from. People will argue with me about how this has happened so fast but i cant explain it to them ive seen so many doctors, medical professionals and they say its a disorder thats all ive got. Basically i'd love to go out and do things like normal people but i just feel like everyone is against me and has to have an opinion about whats wrong with me, my family and friends are very supportive and have been so great. I dont tell anyone about whats wrong until they ask me something about my past, simple things like what school i went to or what i done for my 18th birthday and theres nothing there so eventually i have to tell them and they become all judgemental and horrible. I just want to know if the world isnt actually as bad as what i think it is, that there is actually understanding people out there other than those closest to mesorry its so long, i just need a little hopeThank you x Reply to this Question
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reader, Elydiese +, writes (5 July 2010):
Elydiese is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all so much for your suggestions i will give them a try and thank you all for being so nice x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2010): I had a speech problem for a lot of my life and carried the label 'retarded.' I felt like everyone was against me. As soon as I said something they would give me a weird look and treat me differently. It is very tough.
You do need a way to cope:
-Find the best way of breaking it to people and memorize that.
-Learn good active listening skills, if you can't add to a conversation by talking/relating in the same way, show interest by asking leading questions...stay connected
-make a filing system so you can find things you need to know that will go longer than 3 weeks, if you can't keep it in your head make another physical memory system...problems are easier to handle if you have a way to cope.
-more?
Look on the bright side:
-You don't have to waste time on shallow people.
-Perhaps with only 3 weeks of memory you can remember that 3 weeks better than anyone can remember 3 weeks...excel at what you can do.
As for hope: You can't give up hope. Take something that happens that happy and do everything you can to hang on to it. Every night while you are going to bed remember it...relive it. Try to get it to stick. Do write it down in enough detail that if you forget it for one day you can get it back. Maybe add some more latter, you want to be able to hang on to the most important stuff. I can relive a lot of memory in 15 minutes.
Notice anything that affects how long you can remember stuff. Write it down, start making a list, experiment; find what works best.
I thought I would never beat my speech problem, after 22 years. Life as a retard is a terrible thing. I still struggle with it sometimes. I am still trying to get used to people thinking of me as an actual person. Things may work out for you yet.
You write better than someone who only has 3 weeks worth of vocabulary, somehow some things are able to stick.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2010): just dont go with the idea from the film memento, which is tattoos.
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reader, LLindy87  +, writes (5 July 2010):
 I agree with married lady too!! It will make your life very easier.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (4 July 2010):
 Excellent idea, married lady!
Yes, those rude, inconsiderate, argumentative folk just are not worth bothering with........
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2010): okay bear with me because it will sound like im making light but actually im not. there is this movie with adam sandler...i think it is 100 first dates. in it the girl has amnesia and loses everything when she sleeps. the way they finally handle it, is to write everything down...and they make a short movie and update it daily. so i know that the film was fiction, but it has its moments and i actually wonder if it would help you to have a small notebook with the basics in it that you could refer to. maybe even something electronic. reading thru it weekly or so would give you a foundation even if it werent a true memory. The basics such as parents, siblings, dates, school, prom, college, etc...those things would be in there. this might not work, i have no idea, but it is what came to mind, and it seems like it could benifit at least somewhat.
the people who are rude and inconsiderate, just dont pay attention to them. there are good people in this world who really do care and have compassion for others. we all have something we need others to help us with, and yours is quite a big thing. so lean on those who understand, and keep your circle of friends who understand, and let the rest go. im sorry that i couldnt help, but we are here if we can help you in anyway.hugs, mal
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