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writes:ok so heres my story..i am 16 years old healthy lil man..i dance(breakdance)and am fit no health problemsanyway its was october when i "lost" my virginityand i ve done it outside.. no the beach about 4 amthe woman i had sex with was older than me..anywayi was soo hard when we were foreplaying but when i took my clothes of and got inside her she wasnt tightand in my mind i kept asking my self.." is this what sex is? when is it gonna finish? " i can honestly tell u i prefered masturbation at that moment..i couldnt feel anything..i kept asking her..is it in ? is it in? she told me "its so big how cant u not feel it" and no am not lying thats what she said..anyway after about 10 minutes of penetrating my penis slipped off..after that i just couldnt get back in her..i lost my erection..she even gave me a blowjob but it couldnt get up..i was soo embarassed at that moment that after even months i had a feeling that i couldnt get hard again..and believe me that was happeningi mean i was masturbating and while i was 1/3 erect..p />since then i started doing research about it and what was my problem..at the moment i get harder and i am sure i can penetrate..but my confidence is 0i mean i know i can penetrate but i have a feeling that says "what if it doesnt work again"? this is soo frustrating...what can i do to get over this feelings :( i need really help
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2009): This is a very very common experience. you do not need to worry. Over-excitement, like the experience you describe can cause a lack of sensitivity. You may not have been able to calm and focus and let your body's senses take over.It is also extremely normal to lose an erection and not be able to regain it during a time of stress. You will have a long and happy sex life ahead of you, but it takes time and experience to be good. People who tell you their first experience was mind blowing sex are lying to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2009): Ha! This sex stuff takes practice! Don't be so hard on yourself... I don't know a man yet who didn't know how to do it right, or didn't learn with a few quick and easy lessons :)
Good luck!
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reader, Olivia(Y).  +, writes (7 April 2009):
 You need to relax before having sex. I think this is your problem, you were worried about it and not relaxed enough to enjoy it.
Take things slow. Talk to your partner about it and how you feel selfconsious about it, she will understand! Us girls do understand your problems! Talk to her and make sure your relaxed enough. Set a day when, where your going to do it, Try not to think about oragaming, Just enjoy it!
Communication is the key!
Good luck
Livia
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