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writes:I previously asked for help in dealing with the news of my nana having cancer, through which I helped nurse her. She died yesterday and now I need to ask something and see if anyone can help. I cried when I was told and when I went in to see her. Now I am worried to be alone in case she appears before me as I saw her in her coffin - and didn't like what I saw. I haven't cried today, it's as if she is still alive. What's wrong with me?!? Why am I not crying, when yet the thought of not having her is horrid x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008): i think only now it is begining to hit me. i feel your pain too. how are you? sorry i didn't get back to u before now, just happened to see the question. hope ur ok xX
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2008): Hi how are you coping with the loss now?
I have just lost my nana yesterday. finding it a little hard. I think it's denial just now.
Had to break her door down to get in and my sisters found her and cant quite get it out my head. i know the pain will dull but I do feel your loss.
Rest in Peace Greta with love xx
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (10 October 2008):
 Sweetie there is nothing wrong with you when my grandad died i did not cry till the funeral because i new that it was the end and he was really gone for good before that i could not believe he was gone, she wont appear in front of you she is at peace and you will grieve and cry when you are ready to accept the fact that she is gone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2008): Hi Sweetie. I am a Christian and know you will be with your Nana again, soon. When a spirit lays their body down and goes to Jesus, it is such a relief to end their pain. I have had a near death experience and know that our loved ones meet us beyond the veil, they are all there when we arrive. It is such a joyous occasion. We had lost our son seven years earlier when he was quite young. When my mother was dying (about an hour before) she hadn't spoken all night. She looked at me and told me she had seen ____(our son) all day in the room. I knew he had been coming to her, getting ready to bring her to the spirit world where Jesus was. She was not halucinating, she was extremely serious and clear headed. It will take you about 10 years to get over the pain, but she will be watching over you. You will get over the piercing pain and it will become more and more dull with time. Just know that these things are true. With Love
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2008): Hi
Don't worry it is quite natural to feel like you do, you may feel like crying later on but you may not. There is nothing wrong if you don't cry though as probably in your heart you know she is now somewhere good. Your Nana is not suffering anymore so why should you have to cry everyday. Why don't you do a nice family memory journal about your Nana the happy memories and look at this instead of the memory of your Nana in her coffin. CELEBRATE YOUR NANNAS LIFE! i bet this is what she would like you all to do rather than grieve.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2008): Your not crying yet because it probabaly hasnt sunk in 100% you know? People deal with things differently I know when my dad died 3 monthes ago it took a little while to sink in, just the other day I saw something that reminded me of him and it hit me that he's gone. Your probably still in shock, another thing it may not seem like but its possible. I've heard storys where people haven't dealt with loss until years later.like I said people cope with things differently at different times. Your could be in denial right now, there's many different stages you go through when you loose some one.
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reader, quarky +, writes (10 October 2008):
 Hey there-I'm truly sorry to hear about your loss. My granny died a few years ago now and it didn't hit me until a good few days later. The thing is - everyone deals with loss differently and at different times. What you're going through is normal hun-you shouldn't let it worry you. I also thought it was wrong that I couldn't grieve properly at first. But now I realise that I just had to take time to get my head and heart around what had happened-it will come, just don't force it or feel bad about it. You should also remember your nana how she would like to be remembered-smiling and having fun!-she'd no doubt tell you that you shouldn't be scared of someone who loved you so much...you take care, and grieve in your own way, when you're ready.
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