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writes:*OP's own title*I hung out with my ex today for the first time after about 4 months. We dated for almost three years. She started what I believe was a rebound with her best guy friend only days after our breakup, but she hooked up with me twice about two months later(basically cheated on him). We flirted alot, talked about old times, sometimes it felt like she was still talking like we are a couple still. She talked about how she wished we had more pictures of us and things of that nature, never talked about us, the breakup, or relationships now.She invited me inside her place, and would ask things like "Aren't I the hottest room mate, ect." I still love the girl, and although would not just let her walk back into my life, would still like to have her back. How do I know what she wants/thinks? I didn't want to straight up ask bc I already tried to get her back after, and she was still not ready, so I backed off, cut contact, and ignored her for awhile. She found out I went on a few dates, and mentioned that it hurt her. What do I do now? Do I just play it cool, and wait and see? Do I ask her what this means? How do I know if she is just being friendly or might want more?Thanks for any help!
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reader, lawguy170 +, writes (9 April 2010):
lawguy170 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhen I was with her it felt like we never broke up. She would gave me brush her hair aside and iter things to create contact. She would talk like we never broke up, about our future and stuff, but not directly. She ECM made it obvious she waschecking me out and when I called her out on it she laughed and did it again. Do I try to keep in contvt but not bring anything up? Do I bring up what does this mean?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (9 April 2010):
 If she mentioned that it hurt her when you went on a few dates, it means that she still loves you .
Her subsequent actions showed that she wants to be back on your side.She may have regretted for the breakup and wants to be on good terms with you.
You did the right thing by cutting contact with her and this made her realized what she has missed .
If you still love her, it is time to ooze your feelings for her and reconnect back again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2010): Do NOT try to jump into talking about what it means or what she wants/thinks because that is honestly too soon to do something that serious. If you haven't even hung out for 4 months, it's not the time to immediately talk about your relationship unless she mentions something about it. You don't want to seem desperate for answers. Play it cool and just be patient. If she is still in a relationship and still wanted to hang out with you, you're probably right about it being a rebound. Maybe it isn't even that serious. How did you feel when you were with her again? Obviously if you got along really well, that says that you still have something there, especially if you flirted alot. She even invited you in and that says alot for a girl because she could have easily ditched you. If you dated her for that long, you could probably tell by the way she acted towards you if she was happy to be with you again. Just be patient and let it play out. Hope this helps!
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