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writes:So there's this guy that I met about a year ago and in that year we have became very good friends. I believe I can say he is one of my best friends and recently I've developed a huge crush on him. I denied it to myself for a while, but finally gave in and realized I did. The problem is that I don't know if he likes me the way I like him. Over just a year, we have been through a lot together and had many fun times with each other. When we’re not around each other, we text each other more than we text anyone else. We also have this little joke where I call him my wife and he calls me his husband. People think we're together, but we're not. It’s funny because a lot of the conversations we had, we have so much in common and being the dreamers we are, we even had our future dreams planned out; where we'd want to live and what we'd want to do and all the way down to the smallest details. (which were also very similar)One dream we both have had for such a long time was to travel to Japan and we decided to actually take our dream a step further and save money so we could both go together this summer. I’ve had a lot of difficulty with family problems and a lot of legal issues that occurred since my mom died and I’ve never had a father, yet he is the only one there for me and helping me as much as he possibly can through everything. Now there are a lot of people that have asked me why we aren’t together, but I just don’t think he sees me the way I see him. I want to tell him how I feel, but I don’t know if I should. I'm afraid it will make things extremely awkward if he doesn’t like me like that. I have a strong feeling that he just doesn’t like me like that and that he likes a girl he knew back in his old hometown state and though he doesn’t want to leave me or my other friend here, he wants to move back to his home state for his senior year of high school (even though he knows he can’t). I just don’t know what to do. I want to tell him... but I just have a feeling he doesn’t like me and that I would be making a fool out of myself and risking our friendship if I do.
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reader, i.shadows4920 +, writes (31 March 2009):
i.shadows4920 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo both the replies I got for this post, thanks! They're both two different approaches to the situation and the only thing I can think of is to go with a combination of both.
I will wait to see if he does make the first move. If he doesn't then I might ask. It will be hard for me to ask him something like that...I usually have low confidence and I'm pretty shy about asking, but eventually I may really consider it.
If all fails, then I will be there for him, have fun and continue our friendship!
I'm still open to any other suggestions as well...so if anyone has any other thoughts, I would love to hear them.
Thank you ^_^
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reader, enjoimx +, writes (30 March 2009):
 Im going to give you a interesting reply here....one that might not be accepted by everyone!
Let him make the first move! ...you like him alot but arent sure if he likes you, why not play it the old traditional way and let him make a move if he likes you, that way you both know you like each other romantically, if he doesnt make amove, he either isnt that into you or is scared and needs to grow up a bit!
Either way, keep loving him and being his friend, just be there for him, have fun with him, dont be afraid to flirt either!
Good luck!
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (30 March 2009):
 I think you should just casually ask him, "hey, do you ever think about if we should go out or not?". Or maybe a little bolder like, "what do you think about us being more than friends?". You know him better than anyone so you can figure out what to say. Also if there is someone else you know he talks to maybe get in touch with that person and ask if he has said anything.
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