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anonymous
writes:i am 21 and my girlfriend is 17...we are in the relationship since a year now ...she has been very responsible and extremely caring and so am i ..but there is a lost spark in the relationship and i am not that crazy for her and have liked her only as a friend for some time now...she is a real sweetheart to be with and i don't want to lose her ever in my life...but i am willing to breakup and move on ...she is too much affectionate and this is scaring me away as she wants me every minute and always thinks of me ...it makes me feel that she does not have her own life and that will make it harder for her to move on after the breakup...that is what i am worried about !!but i could not tell her that i want to breakup as she is my dear sweetheart and it will break her heart into million pieces and will get devastated..i wont do that to her !!! we broke up because her family came to know about it, cried and missed each other very much and finally got back together secretly and have been going on since then and that has brought her more closer to me ...what strategy should i opt to keep her away and reduce the deadly addiction without badly affecting her mental state ? i am tired of thinking about it people and have gone into depression as i cant genuinely let her know about it please understand...it is easy said for you all ... and this is all because i care for her a lot...also her elder brother is against me and has warned me to stay away from her and he is unaware of what is going on ....so i don't think it is worth keeping this relationship and we are putting our only hope of friendship on risk because of it
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2009): maybe you should tell her that you are worried that she doesn't worry about her life and too much of yours... she obviously loves you, but there are times to be together.. but you don't have to be with eachother 24/7.. maybe you should talk to her about this.. and maybe she should explain to her family about the situation, because trust me hiding a relationship makes it harder on your guys relationship... do things away from eachother for a while.. see what happens... GOOD LUCK!
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