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writes:Hi everyone I need help right now!! I just found out that my my best friend died today my dad! And I was crying all through school and my mom wouldn't come get me so I was walking around all day with red puffy eyesand I tryed to wash my makup off but it wouldn't come off so my masscara was all over my face!! And I'm balling just thinking about this and I need some ways to forget about it cause I can't take this kind of pain!! Cause he was my best friend in the whole world!! He was there every. Step of the way and I need to get over it so of you have anyways to do this it would be very helpful!! Please:(
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2009): I am sorry to hear about your dad. i can honestly say i know how you feel. my mom died when i was 9 which was 18 years ago. I miss her just as much now as i did then. i wanted to be alone and just deal with it by myself. i still go to her grave and have conversations with her just like she was here. your dad is only a word away. although he may not be able to answer you. you will know how he feels when you are alone and conversating with him. please don't think i am crazy for saying that, but trust me it really works. i hope you take care of yourself and don't give up. remember he is not totally gone. a part of him is still inside you and that is at heart. you will never forget him. he is watching over you right now my dear.
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reader, bOy CrAzY;} +, writes (30 March 2009):
bOy CrAzY;} is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYa I know there's someone who loves u and there in ur dreams or on the other side of the world so there isn't a way to be with them
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2009): I was 19 when my dad died. It was like the hardest thing I went through. I was numb for along time. I also pushed all my friends away. I wish i didn't do that. Your friends don't know what to say, but they do want to be there for you. Everything happens for a reason I hope, and i got thru it and i think i became a better person. i now sort of know how it feels and care about other people more.
hope this helps
take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2009): It's the worst feeling in the world when someone so very close dies - it's so finalLet it all cry out, it will be so painful for a long while yet but all you can do is just focus on what a great person he was and what a fantastic relationship you both had. You will get heartily sick of hearing people say "Time is a great healer", which it is.
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reader, wonderingcat  +, writes (27 March 2009):
 I am so sorry to hear about your dad passing away. Losing someone you love is always very difficult. But know this, your dad was very proud to have you as his daughter and best friend. So from now on, you continue to be the daughter he was proud of, and will achieve big things in your life, and be good to people to. As your friends in school, I hope you have made up and return to being best friends that you got in a fight with last month. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-did-i-only-get-suspended-if-she-started-it.html Close friends do "fight" from time to time, as you may not have seen things eye to eye. Your dad would have been the first one to hug you if you told him that you and your best friend in school have made up and become best friends again. 10-20 years from now, you and your best friend in school will look at these arguments and small fights and think how silly it was ... but that is what makes our growing up time and school such a wonderful experience to go through .Again, condolences to you. And to your mother. She must be devastated too.Cat
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reader, Midge +, writes (27 March 2009):
 Ive been in your very situation! I found out my boyfriend had died when I was at school. We had had an argument and we hadnt spoken in a few days, then I was asked by one of his friends why I hadnt attended his funeral. Well......as you can imagine I was devistated!!!!
It took a LONG time to get over it. I was 17 and he was 19. You dont get over it over night and there is NO quick fix to make you get over it! Oh God, I wish there was though!
To this day I still think of him, and every year that he has died (13th March 1993) I put a memorial in the newspaper for him. Its my way of showing that I have not forgotten him and never will. He was a special part of my life and always will be.
You will over time learn to deal with it. I wouldnt say it gets easier, I think you just learn to accept what has happened, but I think the most important thing is that you somehow make sure that you never forget them. Whether it be a memorial in a newspaper or a headstone in a cemetery that you lay flowers at, make sure you take the time to ensure you remember the good times you had, and even sometimes the bad times because it makes the good times so much more important.
Its gonna be a long hard road! Make sure you never forget them. Make sure that you dont alienate those around you now that could help you deal with the situation. Let your family be there for you. You say you want to get away from your family? Being in the company of people you know and trust is paramount to "getting over" this! Trust me, I have been there more than once, lost more than one friend, lost more than one important person.
My dad has terminal cancer and is currently on his last days on earth and I can tell you, I would rather have my family around me now and after his passing, than ANYONE else on this earth! I have been here all too often and you realise after a situation like this just how important family is to you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2009): I'm so sorry. You're in a world of hurt, and it's going to last a while. Everyone's different in how they mourn, how they cope, and with what helps and what doesn't. I don't know how useful any advice from a stranger can be. The best advice I got when my Dad died was to be patient with yourself. You're going to find yourself wanting to cry at strange times for the next few weeks -- go with it, and don't worry how you look to other people. Sometimes it can help to be with other people who loved him, pull out old photo albums and share stories. My Dad had a great sense of humour, so at his wake we found ourselves laughing at his favourite stories and jokes.
A friend of mine lost his father around your age. He never talked about it, and I think it gnawed at him forever after that he never found a way to vent. It sounds like you're having a lot of healthy tears, so that's a start.
I think it was a year before I had a single day where I went without thinking of my Dad. It's a long, hard process to get through losing someone so important to you.
Be patient, and find at least one person to talk to. There might be a local organization where you live that will offer bereavement counselling -- if there's a hospice near you, call them and they might be able to refer you.
Take care of yourself.
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reader, bOy CrAzY;} +, writes (27 March 2009):
bOy CrAzY;} is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHa thanks but I think I need to get away from everything and all of the family ;) but thank you soooooo much you helped alot;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2009): Im am so sorry for your loss. I think being around family is just the best thing you can do right now. If you are religious I would also pray to God to help you to be strong. Even just crying till you can't no more can help. God bless you.
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