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writes: My best friend complains that i dont tell her things. She wonders why ! I have just found out that something that i did tell her , she went back and told another person what i said. and she wonders why i dont tell her things. I'm so annoyed . I dont know whether to get angry at her or just ignore it . am i over sensative ?please help
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (30 May 2008):
 Some people don't realize the pain that they cause. Maybe talking to her would make her understand.To have a good friendship, you need trust.
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reader, jezman  +, writes (30 May 2008):
 you are not being over-sensitive and you are also not in the wrong. If your friend is telling your secrets to others then you need to confront them about it. You will doing a big favour to them because if you dont tell her then who will?Dont feel pressured to do it though because it isn't your responsibility to tell her, i just think that ignoring her will not solve anything, it will simply delay the problem which will dwell and become worse. You dont have to be angry with her at all, creating friction will just damage your relationship, just calmly tell her how you feel. :)If you are calm and collected, she is less likely to become agitated or defensive. :)You are not being over-sensitive because i also would be annoyed if i found out my friend was telling other people secrets. Best of luck and just remember to stay calm :)Jez x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008): Tisha is so right. You need to speak to her and let her know that she wont be told anything else in the future, you will never put your trust in her again, and that she has lost a valuable and true friend.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (30 May 2008):
 Why don't you simply tell her that you don't feel you can tell her things because she then tells other people? You don't feel you can trust her. Be honest with her about that, and maybe she'll learn a much needed life lesson.
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (30 May 2008):
 no if you tell someone a secret then they should be able to keep it its not a hard thing to ask and expect from a friend..my friends tell me all their secrets and i would take them with my to my grave, its no one elses buisness but hers if she wanted to tell people she would..just dont tell her secrets in future unless you want people to know lol..thats my opinion aphexy
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