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I just feel plain, dull, bored and boring. What can I do?

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Question - (5 August 2008) 3 Answers - (Newest, 5 August 2008)
A age 36-40, * writes:

I've been feeling dull lately. These last few weeks, when I wake up, I'm like "bleh".

I don't get excited about life. It bores me, the routine, or I don't know. But I don't wake up feeling like I want to seize the day (like most of the time). I think about too many things. I overanalyze.

I wake up and feel like doing nothing. I think about my current life (being a student) and what I'll become eventually (wake up, go to work, take care of the kids, etc...).

I don't want to see my friends, I don't want to see my boyfriend (because I fear I'm too attached and he isn't... I don't know, I have many paranoias with him because of trust issues he has with me, like, because I dissapointed him maybe he doesn't love me as much, or he'll cheat, or he'll leave me), I'm not very nice to my family... and I have this general feeling of dislike and insecurity towards myself. I don't like who I am, how I act, how I talk, how I think, how I look, etc.

I don't feel depressed though (been there). I just feel plain, dull, bored and boring; it's kind of even an uncomfortable physical feeling sometimes, and I just want to go to bed, and shut off from people.

What can I do?

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A female reader, marmajuke United Kingdom +, writes (5 August 2008):

marmajuke agony aunti felt the same way a few weeks ago, ive come out of it since, i still dont feel great about myself but im trying to remind myself that im an attractive young woman. ive also set myself some goals to achieve for example get introduced to a guy i fancy and also im trying too lose weight by going jogging every day. im feeling better i feel like i have a purpose. when i did feel like you are, i just thought..what is the point of life and i was crying every day but at the moment i feel good? maybe the sunshine has helped? but dont worry you will get out of the rut! x

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A female reader, cloudnine-andbeyond United Kingdom +, writes (5 August 2008):

cloudnine-andbeyond agony aunti am in a similar situation, i have turned down going out with friends and just dont seem to be motivated anymore. i agree that maybe you should talk to someone, i'm going to if it gets worse. good luck, dont give up ^^

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A female reader, O Connor Ireland +, writes (5 August 2008):

O Connor agony auntyou say you have been there with depression - do you think it could be something along these lines again? not necessarily depression but maybe paranoia or anxiety? maybe you should talk to your family and tell them how you are feeling - the most important thing right now is that you have love and support around you. they might suggest you go and speak to someone, which may be a good option for you. maybe what you need is a suitable person to vent your insecurities and feelings through. this could be as simple as feeling like you have no one to talk to about this.

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