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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ok I have a problem with my gf, when I finnaly came home from deployment and she came to visit me from her home in detriot, all was good and we had a good time.But when she went back up to detriot I feel like I cant trust her because of the past stuff she did, and when she was down here we had a chat disccusion of what she did with her mom and my family to try to make her realize what she did was wrong and if she really wanted this relationship.I am just having a hard time trusting her because I dont want to feel like all I did for her was for nothing, and I do not want to feel like I was used.When we spent a few days together we where very happy with each other, and I felt like I could trust her, then she went back up to detriot to finish her winter semsester,and then she broke a promise she made to me and that made me start to loose my trust with her, and she doing it again through a differnt way.She is a good girl but I can't just seem to be able to trust her, and I don't know why and I do not know how to stop, that I am not able to trust her.Sometimes I feel like she is not being to honest with me and doesnt tell me her problems first and tells her friends, I feel like she is not with me sometimes but againts me.I just at a loss and do not know what to do. Does anyone have any sudgestions about this? On what I can do to make my relationship alot better? Reply to this Question
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reader, petina1  +, writes (16 January 2011):
 It's always very difficult to maintain a relationship when there is distance involved. Some people can do it and some people find it very hard because the contact is limited. You may need to work on the communication lines and keep that regular to make you feel more at ease. Try to find a regular time when you can chat, on msn or fb for a start and make plans for when you may be able to see each other in person again. It's not easy I know, but then you haven't got a lot of choices.
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