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writes:Hey, I'm stuck in a pretty complicated situation right now. I've been very close friends with this girl for over 3 years now, we hook up somewhat frequently and we're just extremely close friends in general. However, we haven't officially dated since we first met. Recently, she decided that we can't be intimate any more and still has yet to tell me why not, even though I know it's because she's seeing someone else. When I confronted her about it, she said she wanted to talk about it at another time. The truth is I really am in love with this girl and don't know how to say it to her. She's not like any other girls I've known and I love being around her and spending time with her, and of course being intimate with her. I just don't know how to tell her how I really feel without being awkward about it or even worse, making our friendship awkward. Reply to this Question
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reader, lah mouw +, writes (31 March 2008):
 This is quite the situation. You must respect her though, if she is seeing someone else, I don't think it would help the situation very much, and you might end up hurting more. Are you sure she is seeing someone else? Perhaps she doesn't want to be intimate any longer is because she has feelings for you as well and doesn't want to get attached thinking you might not feel the same way. The best thing you can do right now in my opinion is to be there for her as a friend first. Make sure you're positive with all your facts, if you know she has a boyfriend; why keep prodding?
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reader, thebethany  +, writes (31 March 2008):
well id just tell her to her face you love her, the worst that can happen is she says she doesnt feel the same way and u blush and feel awkward then run away.
the best thing that can happen is she loves you too and then you end up together.
its worth the risk beleive me.
i was in the same predicament, i had a mate who i wa friends with for years, no making out or anything, just buddies, and also always in competition with each other. we were both with other people but we started chatting one night and chatted for about 3 hours at a party.
we were both in dysfunctional relationships and we had both ended them by the time we were at a party together, we got drunk and then slept together.
next day i ran away, i was scared i had ruined everything in the friendship and we would never be able to talk again.
but we couldnt stay away from each other and about 3 weeks later, he told me he loved me, i told him i loved him back.
2 years later we are still together, live together, love together and plan to always be together.
true love is worth any risk, imagine if u found out in 20 years she loved you too and you never told her and now it was too later. that wuld kinda suck.
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