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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes: I think I'm going out of my mind. I'm a 16 yr old guy and I'm horny all the time.I don't really like masturbating, that's why I rarely do it. It doesn't satisfy me. I get really lonely sometimes and I just want to be able to have someone to call my own. Not just for sexual favors but I want someone to be mine. I get lonely, because I'm not a very into the social scene, and I don't have any true friends. So I'm left to deal with everyday life by myself. But I want more in life, I think I deserve it. I want love. I'm bi and mostly into guys so that may be hard for me but I want it so bad. I want to know what it feels like to have some one you care about, someone to hold hands with, and share that first kiss with. Yes, I've never been in a relationship guy or girl. So I'm fresh out the oven. I want my dream guy to come sweep me off my feet, but I can't find him. I'd be 10 times happier and less depressed than I usually am if I found him. I just don't know how to cope without love. I don't. I alienate myself from people who hurt me, who really don't care, which cause me to alienate everyone else. Even my parents, we don't get along. So I'm basically my myself all the time. And I don't know if I can survive on my own. Can someone give me any insight on my situation please, I'd deeply appreciate it.
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reader, Abella +, writes (23 November 2010):
 first deal with your depression as it is warping your perspective. Go to your Dr and explain your symptoms and how you get depressed.
Once you are feeling more positive you may even like to talk over with a professional (life coach or a person who counsells people on building better relationships or communicating better with others) Because poor relationship skills with others now will certainly put a spanner in the works with any one on one relationship. Relating well with others will help you in all parts of your life.
Are there any groups or activities that you could join to build a wider circle of friends? Especially where you can meet other bi people in a social setting? Being too isolated from others works against you finding a partner.
I can thoroughly recommend finding a fitness centre. And attending it regularly. Mine always has some glorious looking young men who never give a glance to females, but sure check out any new male who enters the circuit area, and soon enough one sees them in conversation
Finding someone special for you is a numbers game. You may need to deal with 100 before you find the one in a 100 who really clicks with you and vice versa. .
Many people, often with good reason, are wary of loners. Because they can be intense, brooding, and too needy.
You are still young. You are feeling horny. Nothing unusual in that. Try adding in fantasy to your masterbation instead of just the physical. Imagine where you are, who is there, how it is unfolding.
Be aware that many men will not see you as a long time relationship, but a quick fuck. If you want love you need more patience and the experience to recognise reciprocated love not one sided unrequited love which is more painful
than no one in your life.
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