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writes:Hey guys and guyesses! Well I've recently told people that I'm gay and I have a boyfriend. I've told 2 really close mates before now but I've "come out" as it were. People are treating me so different! I mean most guy mates are just acting so strange around me, as if they're uncomfortable being around me especially one to one. It's really hit home hard and I just curse myself for being gay. I mean I am who I am and I can't change the fact but I mean it really hurts how people who I thought were my mates are just reacting so badly so it. Is this normal? And what should I do about it? Thanks to those who answer.R.Spencer Reply to this Question
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (26 November 2008):
 Don't put yourself down. Being gay doesn't mean you're inferior... you're just different. There's nothing wrong with you.
Your friends are the ones who should be ashamed of themselves. It's not right to turn one's back on a friend just because the friend is gay. True friends should stand by their friends, and accept them for who they are. Your friends suck.
I know it hurts to have a friend betray you, and it sucks a lot. I just hope that you will find the friends you deserve, who will accept you for who you are. :)
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reader, Tunsat  +, writes (26 November 2008):
Don't be ashamed of who you are. Some people are insecure and can't deal with ways of life that don't exactly match theirs. If you really feel that they are friends try taking them to lunch and explaining how you really need their support. You might also state the fact that just because your gay doesn't mean you've thought about doing anything with them.
Obviously if they can't support you then they weren't good friends to begin with but its possible that with a little talking they may turn around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2008): ok chap so your gay big deal and with your mates this should not change any thing its just a difference to them or their a bit uncomfortable about this it does not make you a bad person mate its not a disease that any one can catch try talking to them and tell them about how they are treating you makes you feel. it is hard to know if you offend someone who is gay when i was working in hospital i was talking to this chap and after awhile he told me him and his partner was moving in together (no sex said) i said to him when are you moving in with him my bottom lip bit my eyes crunched but he was ok with it i talk to him alot now lol just give them time to get used to it hope things sort themselves out mate
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2008): this is when you're gonna find out who's reallllly your friend
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (26 November 2008):
hun don't put yourself down about who you are! i think it's fab that you have come out the closet.
forget about what other people think! but i think maybe you should just talk to your friends about it and say look this is who i am, who i have always been and you need to except me. i am still the same guy.
make them feel comfortable again and make them see that you have not turned into someone else over night. if they really are great friends then they will except you for who you are.
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