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writes:Hi i had deep feelings with dis teacher for 2 and a half year now and that feeling keeps coming back to me! i have my SATS next week and i cnt properly study! i think im goin to fail! :( Every time i dont see him i jus feel like cryin :'( in summer holidays i miss him soooo much! i just shut myself and cry bcoz its too overwhelming..... (lame i know!) should i tell him? to get dis off my chest and finnaly revise properly? or get him a risk not liking me anymore and he might feel very awkward ... he always winks at me,teases me (in a good way) i always visit his room after skool and we always have a chat... i dream about him everyday.. its not a girly teenager imagination thing its very seroius to me. I cnt properly go to sleep jus thinkin about him... plzz help me!! i need your advise! if u decide just to type in loads of rubbish sayin its disgusting! its wrong! then your not helping and wasting your own time! i dont mind if you put your own problem wit your teachers... it actually makes me feel better that im not alone! so please even if it takes soo long i dont mind just need your help! :)thanks!P.S ill reply to every answers you guys write! !!XXXXX
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reader, jannet  +, writes (20 December 2008):
hi this sounds so silly but i just went through that phase just the thing is i am in in high school and he is in middle school and ever since i graduated we have been talking about everything well ok straight to the point i met him not long ago like 2 weeks ago because i wanna know where is this all going so i mean because i cant hae a functional rlationship because i have to make sure that person has his charecteristics so anyways i met up ith him and i told him how i felt that i get dreams and i cant stop thinking about him
and the reality is this
if he cares about you he will say it cant happen
he said to me that he is 52 and i am 16 i have a life ahead of me and that he is a teacher and i am a student
so i decided to stop all communication because i need a break from him trust me i went through depression
all i can tell you is tel him how u feel and if he say i love you crap ask him questions like
how serious are you about us
are you willing to risk your job for me
and then u will see
best luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2008): you sound a lot like me. i'm in love with my physics teacher (have been for almost a year now) and during my exam week, he came and sat in some of them to supervise us, and i couldn't concerntrate properly or anything! i was freaking out and was convinced i had failed. However, i did managed to do a lot better than i expected. I realise it is a bit late for me to say dw about you SATs so i just hope you did ok!
As for your feelings, well i know exactly how you feel there too! I love my teacher sooo much and it hurts me like hell to know that we can never be together. However, i don't think you should tell him. I know it is hard, but he could lose his job over it, or start to ignore you. I reckon you definetly don't want to sacrifice the relationship you already have. Enjoy his company and the fact that you have a good student teacher realtionship, but i advise you not to take it any further.
talking to people about your feelings really helps too. It took me months to pluck up the courage to tell anyone, but once i did, i felt soooo much better and i also discovered that some of my mates feel the same! Even if you don't feel ready to tell your mates, just reading the comments on websites like this makes me feel better...it shows that i'm not the only one! People on here will always be happy to share their experiences.
I hope your SATs went ok and that my advise was vaguely helpful!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2008): heyy (:well i have the same kind of problem except he is a trainee teacher, hes 23 and im 15...we got on really really well but not im scared cause some people in the year below me told him i was stalking him (which im not, i just like him) and now i think hes avoiding mei know exactly how it feels to be in love with a teacher, i had to leave my last school because of the same problem...so just dont tell him, because it ruins everything ;)oh and dont tell lots of other people, in case they tell him, cause thats worse :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): hi!!! i hope u are doing fine! im sorry i probably cant help u at all... but i want u to know u are not alone!!!!!!!! i am so in love with my teacher too! it feels so good to see im not alone. how old are u and how old is your teacher? im 19 and my teacher is 57!!! i know it sounds so weird :((( but i really love him. i can relate to u so much. do u think they can tell by the look of our eyes we love em?????? its really hard for me to take my eyes from him during class. when we look at each other i always think it is really obviously that i love him...
how do u feel? did u make a decision yet? i would love to stop loving him because it hurts SO MUCH but at the same time i want to keep on loving him because it just feels so good to look into his eyes and think how perfect he is. he is really funny too like your teacher... in my case i know there will never be a chance for me to be together with him... because of the age difference and he has a girlfriend and anyway he probably only sees me as a student :( although he keeps eyecontact with me a lot and smiles at me and laughs about my jokes and he probably thinks im really smart because my marks went up so high since i fell in love with him... but its only because i want to impress him... oh god thats so laughable :((( but its true...
i would love to tell him just to relieve me but i cant... i am afraid he would act different to me or something...i dont know what to do... i love him and next year i graduate... it hurts so bad... but he has everything i wish from a man... life is so unfair :(((
sorry i couldnt help u at all... but please write back ! :( seriously it would make me feel better... i know no one who is in love with a teacher.
(im sorry for my language mistakes, i am german)
take care xxx
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reader, sweet_lover101 +, writes (30 April 2008):
sweet_lover101 is verified as being by the original poster of the question THANKS A BILLION GUYS!!!!! I REALLY APPRECIATE IT!!!
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reader, Love_is_all_youu_need +, writes (30 April 2008):
 *sigh* I know how it feels! I'm doin my main GCSE's in a couple of weeks, and I got my mind on this teacher constantly... and his fiance also teaches at the school too and I can't stand seeing them together because it breaks my heart!
Please personal message me, we can exchange our stories :) xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): I do sympathize I know what its like to be in love and be in love with someone who may very well be unattainable. Right now you've got some things going for you, you have this incredible fantasy and it sounds to me like the relationship b/w you and your teacher is relaxed and pleasant for the both of you. If you tell him that would change, usually I say tell the person but in this case I think you realize he could get in a lot of trouble, not only are you his student but you are underage. If you told him your feelings now you'd put him a very awkward situation, if he was a good guy he would not at this point be able to reciprocate them, which would mean for your sake and his job he'd have to start acting more distant so as not to lead you on or confuse matters, because he literally can't do anything about it right now. If he's a bad guy he might actually do something but then I don't think you'd want would happen. The point is enjoy what you have now, when you are of legal age and not his student, you may consider then confessing your feelings. I know that may seem like a million years off, but those wonderful intense feelings you have now shouldn't be rushed or wasted savor them and enjoy the good thing you've got going.
Oh let me add I am not saying your teacher is a bad guy I don't think that but if he does have feelings for you, which he might he's going to have to wait same as you until the timing is right and right now it isn't. The two of you can go on with things as is, which to me seems to be fun and enjoyable for you both, if you told him now I just think it'd make things weird b/w you at this point.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): I do sympathize I know what its like to be in love and be in love with someone who may very well be unattainable. Right now you've got some things going for you, you have this incredible fantasy and it sounds to me like the relationship b/w you and your teacher is relaxed and pleasant for the both of you. If you tell him that would change, usually I say tell the person but in this case I think you realize he could get in a lot of trouble, not only are you his student but you are underage. If you told him your feelings now you'd put him a very awkward situation, if he was a good guy he would not at this point be able to reciprocate them, which would mean for your sake and his job he'd have to start acting more distant so as not to lead you on or confuse matters, because he literally can't do anything about it right now. If he's a bad guy he might actually do something but then I don't think you'd want would happen. The point is enjoy what you have now, when you are of legal age and not his student, you may consider then confessing your feelings. I know that may seem like a million years off, but those wonderful intense feelings you have now shouldn't be rushed or wasted savor them and enjoy the good thing you've got going.
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reader, TotallyBlue +, writes (30 April 2008):
Goodness, I feel for you. Just now we had spring break and I was miserable without my guy. It's so hard, especially to fall for a teacher. I think you'll find a way to cope with this in anyway though. Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): Hey,i know exactly what your going through my teacher and i are the same exact way hes so different so enchanting,unique,more than what i wanted in my "prince" what grade are you in??is he married??if you give me more details i can help you out....p.m me anytime so we can both share our stories if you wish-Angelmorena05(just keep strong!!)
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