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writes:(( Sorry for the legnth))I was friends with this boy through primary school ( although he is a year older than me) and when i started high school i started to fall for him. In my 1st year of high school i started to realise how much i liked him. When i entered 2nd year i went on this trip with the geography department ( he was there) and struggled to hide my feelings for him. after the trip 2 of my friends told him how i felt and i kept trying to talk to him as i wanted to tell him that im happy being just friends but he kept ignoring me and walking past when i said hello. it started to hurt and i started trying to let go and trying to get over him. since about march/april i started to see that he was falling for a girl and now their going out. I can see he really likes her and now Thanks to my friend he isnt ignoring me now. The problem is. Ive liked him for about 2 years. I thought i didn't like him anymore and it has been like this for a little while. I'm in 3rd year now at school and were friends. JUST FRIENDS.For the past few weeks i realised i still have feelings for him.I really want to let go. I've tried everything. Is their something wrong with me?why can't i let him go. Reply to this Question
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reader, starfairy +, writes (6 July 2008):
 There's nothing wrong with you, you can't help your feelings.
You just need to concentrate on moving on, avoid seeing him as much as possible, remember, out of sight, out of mind.
Plus it's human nature to want what we can't have, so that doesn't really help!
Everything happens for a reason, he obviously wasn't right for you...Spend some time with friends, keep busy, and soon enough you'll be over it :o) xx
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reader, ChiRaven  +, writes (6 July 2008):
 No, there's nothing really "wrong" with you.
You're probably just obsessed with this fellow. You want to let him go, but have found it impossible to do so.
There are a couple of books on the subject of "how to fall OUT of love" and "breaking your addiction to a person" that give a number of good techniques that will help you get over him. They use some psychological methods known as behavior modification to guide you through getting over thinking about this person all the time and allow you to let go. I think these books are available on Amazon dot com for less that about USD $10 each, plus shipping ... not a terribly great investment. Or your local library may have copies.
They're worth a try. I think you'll find them useful ... and VERY liberating.
Good luck.
And then work on finding yourself a new boyfriend.
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