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writes: I have known this guy for 4 years, he is attractive and has the most beautiful personality. We became very close and there were a few 'spontaneous' moments where he would 'kiss' me when I was unaware. I thought he was interested in me and all as everytime we went out on the town or anything there were always girls out there that wanted to be with him or go out with him and he would politely turn them down. We both used to talk about our 'ideal' partners and discovered we both had the same qualities we were looking for in a partner. We have a lot of great memories shared between us but to cut this story short, his bestfriend asked me out, I said yes and we both weren't serious in the relationship at the beginning until I fell pregnant. We are now in a serious relationship for our beautiful daughter and as for my close friend from the beginning of this story, he has dissappeared out of my life and has found a girlfriend, I haven't been in contact with him since then, kind of keeping my distance. I am happy for him, my problem is, why do I always think about him? My partner (his bestfriend) is wonderful, he is everything a girl wants and I sit here wondering, why do I think of my old friend? Reply to this Question
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (11 December 2006):
 Hi dearie,
They are people like that who come into our lives. What i feel u miss most is his companionship and care he gave to u. Both of you had the opportunity to take it a step further but it didnt happen.He could have defined the relationship and made u feel more secured and i bet u wouldnt have given another guy a chance. Why didnt him? Seeing his friend's interest in you could have even made him act faster knowing the girl he adores might be snatched away from him. But he didnt still.
What u are doing now is thinking of what it could have been.There is still no gaurantee that it could have been what u are imaging it to be. People act differently in relationship than in friendship. You should have no regrets and value what u did have with him and the experience. But both of u have moved on with your lives and now with a man who truly adores u and according to you "what every girl wants".
My advise is that u should concentrate on your future with your partner who i can see from your posting u adore very much and see no fault.
I wish u all the joy and happiness of the season. Goodluck
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