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writes: My dad is an alcoholic and my mum died when I was 11. Now I am 16 and don't know how to cope with my dad. He doesn't always drink, but when something happens in the family to upset him he always turns to drink. My grandmother is dying with cancer and my brother has just been sent to a rehab for his alcoholism, so this has caused my dad to turn to alcohol. When he used to have one of his stages were he used to 'drink' I used to be able to cope, but this last year I am finding it very hard. Please help soon xxxxx
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reader, Aunt Audrey  +, writes (17 November 2006):
 Hi,
I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a tough time regarding your father's drinking, but unless he accepts he has a drinking problem and decides to help himself there's really no stopping him, and little you can do to stop his self destructive behaviour.
Have you spoken to him and said you think he has a problem with drink and how his behaviour affects you? If not make sure he's sober if you do, no point talking to him when he's been drinking.
You can however help yourself to deal with the effects living with an alcholic has by contacting AA- Alcholics Anonymous, they are not just there to help the drinker, but also the drinkers family or carers. There are many who go through the same things as you do, find some support and know you are not alone, you will find the number for AA in any telephone directory, and they will advise you. Hopefully your father will wake up to his problem and seek help for himself.
I wish you luck.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2006): Hey!
First off, I'm sorry to hear about your mum.
I'm 14 and just so you know that you aren't alone, my dad drunk himself to death last year. I know how you feel, and it's hard but I'm sure it's just a phase and when he gets trhough this hard time with your granmother and brother I'm sure he'll be fine again. xxx
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reader, Lake +, writes (16 November 2006):
Many people don't realise that alcoholism is far more common than they suspect. Most Alcoholics don’t even know they are one until the truth smacks them in the face. The fact that your father needs to face his problems with a hard drinks makes him one. Unfortunately, most people don’t realise that their drinking will harm anyone else, that’s why so many people turn to it. I’ve been there and done that. Still doing it to be honest.
I have no advice, only to talk to your dad. Most men will put aside their grief to help their love ones get on, but that does not mean you should not let him grieve. Being there for him will remind him that there is the living to think about as well. The old saying, “Remember the dead, but don’t forget the living” rings true.
Helps on alcoholism comes from friends and family, it is good that you have come forward. However, now it is down to you to help your dad. No alcoholic is ever going to wake up one day and decides to stop drinking.
Good luck and be strong for your family.
Lake
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