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writes:If there was anytime i need some help i need it now, i just broke up with my boyfriend and i dont just feel emotionally sick but i also feel physically sick...like i cant breathe and my stomach is in knots. This is the worst feeling in the world and i just cant take it.We broke up because he sent a flattering text to his ex!! It said "she cant be more unreal than you ha, are you settin me up. ha" I only found out after xmas day that it was his ex, all the time he told me it was a girl he worked with. I have posted about 3 questions here b4 about this same problem. I just cant come to terms with it at all. He said he regrets it and is ashamed and he loves me. we were together over 2 years. He said he didnt meet her and i do belive that coz she is in a longterm relationship herself, id say she was just lookin for some attention and he gave it to her coz he's such a dope.Its been over 3 days and i have barely heard from him. Surely if he was that sorry he wudnt be able to stop contacting me. Should i text him?? Where do i go from here?? Does he still love his ex???
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2008): If you broke up with him, he is going to be angry at you and also mad at himself....give him a couple of weeks if you have to, to cool off and calm down. He will contact you if he wants to make up, and I think he will, he knows he hurt you, and he may not apologize, but he may hand you an olive branch here soon, so let him come through with a gesture, and then forgive him and apologize for your part in it...don't push or chase him.
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reader, brooke5426  +, writes (31 December 2007):
 aww babe my heart totally goes out to you and i feel nothing but complete empathy for you cos i know EXACTLY how it feels. Its not nice and I sincerely hope you're feeling better soon cos that feeling is torture!
as for your ex, i think he knows he's done something wrong and is giving you a bit of room letting things settle down and hoping you'll calm down. Send him a text, just saying you are confused about what you want but you'd like to talk to him and see what happens.
i dont think its worth throwing your relationship away for. like you said, he's been a dope but its a forgivable offence if he learns from it.
all the best
Brooke
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reader, DearDolly +, writes (31 December 2007):
 I wouldn't think he would still love his ex, men do stupid things like this all the time and lie about it to protect our feelings which is sometimes the wrong thing to do.
Just DON'T contact him, hes in the wrong let him do the chasing.
Dolly
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reader, nikkij +, writes (31 December 2007):
 I was in this exact situation. I didn't talk to him for a long time...and he gave me my space...anyhow with all the space he decided to just move on with life without me in it. If you still want a relationship with him...contact him soon...maybe in a short sweet text..talk to him. If you need more time, set a time when you will be ready again...if not then try to work things out...but don't push him so far away if you still might want him back...
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (31 December 2007):
 He is giving you spoace and letting you cool down just send a short sweet text and see if he responds
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