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writes:I got really drunk and when I home (I came home wasted 10 times in a row). My wife was in the kitchen and she started yelling at me for coming home drunk and not calling her. Then we had a fight about my drinking and pretty much everything that's wrong with our marriage. It was at the point where we were screaming at each other. Then I yelled " YOUR A F***ING BITCH" and then the water works happen. She's quite sensitive and it really doesn't help that I have no clue to calm her down . She went to a hotel, I haven't heard from since. I call her on her cell but she won't pick up. Is this the last straw?Also her dad was a drunk when she was 9 and he died from drinking to it of the stuff.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2009): Nice one buddy you hurt her feelings now what? well heres something my ex husband was also an alcoholic and just as your wife left you i left him as well and he would call i wouldnt answer he would go visit i would scream at him and tell him to leave but you earned this. Your wife loves you but she also sees that you arent doing anything to chaange so she is now thinking if its best to leave you. You said your dwife is very sensative so you have a chance im sensative too but you know what made me take my husband back? I actually saw him trying to change he staarted going to church and that helped him alot because unbalievable he doesnt drink anymore a women follows her husband and has no problem with that if the husband is a good leader so make up for your mistakes and try to actually change for god sake! Im 20 yrs other ppl were telling me oh leave him you dont need drama in your life i would have left him if i didnt see some effort in him but i did now we have a son and were very happy you can save your marriege you judt have ot work for it. Isnt that what marriege is about working things out its not always beutiful. So man up and do something stop drinking and get help and look for your wife and tell her your plans. Good luck!
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (10 June 2009):
 This seems painfully obvious, but perhaps you are too caught up in your own world to see it - you need to stop drinking if you want to save your marriage. End of story. She doesn't not deserve your drama, your moods, your abuse and all the crap that comes with the alcohol. She has suffered enough at the hand of alcohol in her life, her father dying?
I hope that you either see the light and drag yourself to AA to make some changes, or I hope that she sees the light and leaves you for a steady life partner.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2009): from a guy...
Why are you even asking this question?
You are drunk all the time and call her the worst thing you can think of (while drunk). Drunkeness is no excuse for anything.
If I was her, you would never see me again.
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reader, pebble  +, writes (10 June 2009):
 So stop drinking.
What is more important to you? Your wife or the drink that turns you into a nasty animal?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2009): u sound like you need to get serious help in dealing with yr drinking, u have hurt yr wife and she rightly went and stayed somewhere else. rremver that her father was a drinker nd died from it!
Stop drinking, get some help, go to AA meetings or whatever u need to do. If u really love yr wife u will not treat her like this, u will & do yr best to try and seek help and find out why u need to drink so much? this is not fair to yr wife, she doesnt deserve this. yes it might be the last straw. I agree with satindesire.. alcohol = problems, cut out the alcohol, maybe try to fix the problems
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