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writes:My girlfriend for 2 years just broke up with me 2 months ago. We are both 23 years old and I can say that we were happy and so much in-love in the first 1 year and 5 months of our relationship.We rarely argue and we care so much for each other. She sleeps in our house at least 2-3 times a week. But by the days goes by, I can sense that she is starting to get bored in our relationship. After Christmas we have a little bit of misunderstanding then after a week she told me that she only wants me as her friend and needed space to think if I am the one that she really wants. My biggest mistake is I panicked and was afraid to lose her so I started begging her for another chance and I know I really make myself look stupid. But when I decided to leave her alone and give him space she acted again like everything is alright but I know something is wrong but a bigger problem is about to come. We found out that she is 2 months pregnant with my child but she doesn't want to go through with it due to personal reasons. She said that she is not ready but I tried to convince her not to go for abortion because I really love her and I want the baby. But at the end of the day she decided to go for abortion. After the abortion I was so disappointed of her but she also regret what she have done and feel sorry. After the abortion, our relationship seems to have been back to normal. She always tells me that she misses me and loves me and for about a month that has been the case. I tried to maintain the relationship by giving her some space. But after a month, again she rarely shows affection but sometimes she seems really sweet and caring so I was really confused. Sometimes I still feel depressed about the abortion and I know that she knows that I feel that way. I was hoping that our relationship will be as it was before but sometimes I can feel that our relationship is going to an end. Then in August, a week after her birthday she texted me and she wants to break up. I asked what's wrong and she gives me reasons like " she sees no future in our relationship", "I am too good for her", " she wants to be alone to think things over". Of course I was hurt even though I was expecting that this will happen especially after the break up she seems to hate me and texting me asking when can she pick up her things in our house. At that time was I hurt and angry and I don't know if breaking up with me through text is a nice thing to do and I'm really trying to control my emotions. Last week of September I texted her like "how are you" and she replied nicely and asking how am I doing and we a chat a bit but the the next day she texted me again asking when can she pick up her things but this time she asks me nicely. I didn't reply and it's been 2 weeks that we have no communication. I do want her back and I misses her so badly. They say NO CONTACT RULE but how long.. I just want to know if there is still a chance to patch things up or I'm just craving for one love that is no longer mine.
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (16 October 2010):
 To bernard: Just because she didn't want the baby, doesn't mean that she doesn't love him... There may have been other factors as to why she couldn't keep it, she may not have been mentally ready to look after a child, she may not have been financially stable. Alot of people abort their babies because they feel as though they can not give that child the best possible quality of life!!!
Keep the no contact rule going, yes it'll be tough. I know how horrible it is to miss someone, it hurts like hell, but someone once said to me...
"If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, then it's yours forever. If not, then it was never meant to be..."
It will get easier, i've been there, done that...
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