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writes:Ok look. I try to help out my sister by helping take her kids, my nephews and nieces places. I don't mind doing that, I helped "raise" them in a sense (and I am thankful for that, and it was in no wise any thing to take away from thier real mom and dad). Anyways, I am 50 years old. These nephews and nieces, they are in the 12 to 18 range. There is a girl there that is "hot" (if I was yoounger). Anyways, I am all cool around them, yet two of them tempt me really bad by exposing lots of skin and other things, and I just don't want to take all of them places anymore, I don't want to hurt feelings, I just don't think it appropriate for young ladies be wearing low cut shirts and mid-ts and showing their bras, anyways, How do I get out of this ?And, btw, I have not had sex in 5 years (truthfully), I decided when I started working with coal, I would wait till I get married to have sex again. So, I mean I think their mom and dads need to get them to work at home more and wear more clothes to cover up ! It is crazy tempting a guy like me ! I mean they have to know I look, and they also have to know I just don't want to be tempted like that, cuz it is not fair to them or to me. Any suggestions ? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2011): I think you should talk with your sister about it. There's no other way to deal with it.
Obviously it won't come across well if you say that her nieces turn you on...
This is a situation where I would use a white lie even if it means scaring your sister a little. A tactful way to get her to change is to express this as pure adult concern on your part. For instance, tell her they have received inappropriate attention from older men when you take them out...If their dress is so revealing that you no longer want to take them out in public, you probably aren't the only one noticing. Ask her to dress them more conservatively if she leaves them with you or leave a change of clothes at your place...try not to make it about her parenting skills and choices.
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