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writes:Having met a man on a recent holiday we became quite good friends but nothing sexual although he wanted to.The reason I didnt respond was becasue I heard him telling another couple in a loud voice in front of about 8 of us that he was anbnoyed becasue I hadnt gone to bed with him! I am sorry but even in todays age I find that quite insulting coming from a man of about aged 56 in from of "virtaul strangers" it made me feel quite small.However we did e mail a few times when we returned and I did tell him I was angry about his "behaviour"and now he hasnt e mailed me and seems as even if our platonic friendship is over also. I feel upset becasue I did/do like him and now wish I hadnt said anything to him. How can I say I am sorry for everything and sorry for upsetting him and tell him I would like to still hear from him?? I wish I haadnt told him off now but having said that I do in some ways thing I was justified but now Ive lsot a friend becasue of it.Please dont say just forget him that is easier said than done I would like jus toNE more chance if that fails then I will have to forget him what should I do/say for a last possible chance? Even if he just e mails back and says he only wants to be a friend that is better than nothing Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): Why not just email him and tell him what you've written here? You couldn't really spell it out any more clearly than that.
Personally, I don't see that you have anything to apologise for. Quite the reverse - he should be the one apologising to you for his rude and insulting behaviour.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (4 July 2008):
 it seems like this friendship was only platonic on your side and he has percieved this telling off as the brush off and moved on
or maybe not
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (4 July 2008):
it seems like this friendship was only platonic on your side and he has percieved this telling off as the brush off and moved on
or maybe not
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (4 July 2008):
it seems like this friendship was only platonic on your side and he has percieved this telling off as the brush off and moved on
or maybe not
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): No it's never easy to let someone go when you were having a good time with them, but you have to realize that he will respect you a lot more if you don't back down from your original statement. What he did was VERY bad behaviour, and kuddos to you for letting him know that what he did was unacceptable. If he doesn't even want to talk to you as a friend, then that means that all he was after was sex. Do you realize that if that's the case, then you don't need someone like that in your life? If you apologize for what you said, then he'll know that you're a pushover...he'll come back, demand sex, and maybe if you give it to him...then you'll definitely never see him again. He fits that type of person. You should stand your ground and show him that you need to be respected.
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reader, Fabulous Fairy +, writes (4 July 2008):
 Hey there,Your not gonna like it, but i have to say this guys sounds selfish, insensitive and insulting and to be honest i think you did exactly the right thing - although i think a cocktail thrown in his face would have added a little more weight and public humiliation ( which is no more than he deserved). However if you are really sure that you want to be with someone who seems to want you for one thing and one thing only then call him. If this is a little bit to scary then write him a letter. I know its all about emails and texts now a days but you can put down what you really want to say in a letter. You can explain why you were upset and how you would like to move forward with him even if it is just as friends. If he doesnt get straight on the phone to you and apologize profusely then he is just not worth the bother. Self respect is a great thing....dont ever loose it!Good Luck :-)
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