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writes:I am hoping someone can help a bit here. I was with my boyfriend for twelve years. He told me at the beginning of June that he met someone else. He has been moving his stuff out gradually( so as not to hurt me...or so he says) and is now no longer here. He said I can call on his cell phone if there is anything. He has a stack of mail. I called him and he was so cold and distant with me when I was trying to deal with all the red tape of his move out that I just could not keep it together, started crying and hung up. I noted that he called me back but I cant stop crying. What is happening to me and how do I cope with the coming days, weeks and months. I feel like this does not seem real. Reply to this Question
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reader, Khandi  +, writes (5 July 2008):
 I am sorry to hear what you are going through, it is a tough place to be, one thing to look at is at is he could have told you instead of you finding out on your own. This is maybe a long tough road, but what ever you do, don't give up on you, keep yourself looking good keep yourself up. never let them see you sweat! Take good care of you because better is coming your way !
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all three posters for your sweetness at taking the time to respond. I am just on my way out the door for some Ben and Jerrys ice cream...well it is a start:-) I hava box of hankies close by as well. xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): Sorry babes. For your own emotional health you need him to get out of your life as quickly as he can. Cut all contact with this man as fast as he can. Do everything to remove anything that reminds you of him. Things are going to get very, very painfull. You need to build up a wall and refuse to let him back in. I've been there, done it, I've even got the teeshirt. For your own safety, cut all contact and do it today. Your going through a very bad phase, keep in contact with your friends and family, spend as much time as possible with other people. Write to us at dear cupid. Here are some links to help you understand what your feeling, what you will be feeling and what you can do to help yourself. Hugs, babes. I'm sorry, please, please, please, TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOU.
http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Over-Your-First-Love
http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Over-a-Break-Up
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-over-your-ex.html
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reader, MissAgonyAuntx  +, writes (4 July 2008):
 I am so sorry to here this it cant be easy for you at the moment but I can promise you that you will get over it it just will take time.I know its not exactly what you want to hear and its bound to be hard for you. Try getting yourself out with friends are take up an hobbie it will keep your mind off things. I know its hard but things will get better in time if you feel like you need someone to talk to you could try counciling it can help good luck for the future X
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): If he is going to be cold and distant why should you send on his stuff for him.
I would try and forget him. Get emotional support from your family and friends, keep in company, find other things to do - hobbies, going out. Don't sit home thinking about it. It will take time but there is someone better out there for you.
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