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writes:My best friend of 3 years has changed a lot recently. We are both 14 and have just moved up to high school. She started to make new friends and we drifted apart slightly. The other day we had a disagreement and stopped talking for a whole week. In the end I rung her to see why she was so angry. She said that she didn't think we should be friends anymore because we have both changed so much and we wanted different things. I was really upset because we were like family, I really loved her. Now because we still have the same group of freinds I still see her a lot but we hardly ever talk. I really don't know what to do because I miss her so much but I know that it will never be the same again. Its not that I don't have other friends, I do. Please help me I feel like a part of me is missing. Thanks x
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2007): well my frend and I keep on fighting.Should I still be frieds or call it quits???
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reader, justice123  +, writes (24 March 2007):
well i know exactly what your going through my bestfriend Quateka and i were friends and i decided that we shouldnt be friends anymore look let it go and you should try to become closer with other friends you have because they might be better to get along with and thats just the way things go in life we move on the immature things dont face us anymore...
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (24 March 2007):
 Hi there, sweetness.
I'm so sorry, darlin'. This is kind of part of growing up. Moving up to high school is a really weird experience. Suddenly you're grown up, you're trying to fit in, do the boyfriend thing and the friends thing and the cool thing. Sometime's it can really take it's toll on friendships.
I know that when I hit high school, I had some close friends that did exactly what your friend did to you. It seemed like they liked their new friends better than they liked me, not to mention we both really had changed.
Sometimes the best thing for friends to have is space. Then you have room to appreciate each other. My very best friend and I were in the same classes K-3, but then I moved away from her. It was the best thing to ever happen to us! Had we been in school together, we would've ended up not being friends. We were too different! I was a theater geek and she was a cheerleader.
Sometimes for friends to survive high school, you need to give each other space. Maybe write her a letter explaining that you know you're both changing a lot and that you need some space, but tell her that you love her to pieces and you really value your friendship. Tell her that maybe you guys can e-mail each other updates on each other's lives every week.
Tell her you love her family and your family loves her and you hope you can be like sister's forever.
Good luck, sweetness.
xxIndia
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2007): hey, your age can be tough, a lot of friendships change which was the same case for me when I was around your age. If you want to try and save your friendship though, why not try apologising to her about your disagreement (whether you feel responsible or not) and tell her how much you value your friendship and don't want things to change between the two of you, regardless of what new friends you both may make and no matter how much you guys change. She'll either come around or not, but that's the best advice i can think to give you. Hope all works out, and if not, from my experience i found progression into high school a bit of a strange and tough time because so many people do change but things definitely get better.
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reader, livi +, writes (24 March 2007):
 hey there,
Awww dont worry bout it all sweety.
SOunds like this girl needs some space to think about what she really wants. i think you have two options really.
- appologise when you didnt do anything wrong but then you will have your friend back .
- leave her and find some better mates.
so its the right thing or the easiest thing.
PErsonaly it sounds that you deserve betterm anyoe that is causing you to be upset isnt worth bothering with,
Give her space and soon enough she will realise she needs you. Good luk though. : D
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