A
female
age
51-59,
*uzuki
writes:Hi all, need your help again. The guy I was seeing for three months came home a wedding in England and invited me out on the Sat night and I couldn't go with work commitments. He phoned me on the Tuesday after as I had had a break in to the house and he had heard about it. So he asked the usual questions and said he would call back later that night... nothing! And nothing for the rest of the week.... so on Sunday I phoned him and left a voice mail asking him to call so we could talk like adults and see if everything was ok or not.... nothing. So in my infinite wisdom I though 'right it's over isnt it?' I would be civil and just sent a text that night saying " hope your ok, but it looks like you want no contact with me, so keep you bike between the hedges( irish saying to say be careful on your bike) , and look after yourself babe x" So that was that really.....So at the heart of it all Im confused why he just chose to disappear...even before my tx...would a man not be worried that his girl had been broken into? Do guys at 34 not have any balls anymore if they dont want to see someone, to tell them? Or do guys just do disappering acts cause they need space and ive just blown it bigstyle by literally saying 'see ya!' on Sunday when I hadnt heard from him since Tuesday? Thing is I want to scream cause I really liked him and if Im honest I miss him...but Ive friends saying leave it totally and no contact...and ive friends saying if you really care leave it for a while and just send a casual tx saying Hi how are ya.. It's not good. I would appreciate the honesty of yourselves as always xx
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reader, Deema  +, writes (9 October 2008):
 Hi lovely Irish lady. Can hear your accent as you write :)))). Well my best peice of advice for you is read the book called 'The Rules'. Its all about how to behave in a relationship and how to keep your man. Its not about playing games, its about keeping your self-respect, and what that book would say is - does it make you feel good chasing after him - when he should be the one doing the chasing? Truth is it doesn't does it? Your self-respect goes straight down the pan. What I would say is make no contact whatsoever. He has your number. He hasn't returned your calls. Just watch. He'll come running when he doesn't hear from you. We all love to have what we can't have for some odd reason. But when we know someone is chasing US, it seems easy to push them away. Like I said, its all about self-respect. Make him chase YOU, and then decide if you want him or not !!!! Good luck.
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