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writes:i am feeling so depress right now.. i really need someone to tell me what to do.. i am so freaking out here..i have a bf online..we been in a LDR for 16months now.. the relationship became really serious.. we talk about our future and we even plan to meet this end of MAY 2011.. but i think its not gonna happen now..because he didnt get online , no text, no call from him for 1 week now.. the last time i chat him, we were very ok.. hwe even exchange i love yous but on the next day i had an email from him saying that hes thinking that i am cheating to someone and he told me i am acting cold..and lossing faith for him and i to be together someday..and i was surprise why he said that.. where in , i know i am not doing anything.. and he knows that i am very much inlove with him and knows that i am very loyal to him.. does he making an excuse thats why hes attacking me like that? :( so i replied back to his email but til now i dont get any email from him :( i am waiting for him in skype but he is not online..and he has no more picture on skype... so i guess he already deleted or blocekd me already :( so i really wanna know what to do.. shall i call him or make the 1st move? shall i ask him why he not contacting me anymore? does he falling out of love on me? or i wait for him until the end of MAY and hoping he will still come? or i will just move on and forget him?please guys! help me.. i really need your advices :(thank you.. u help will be very much appreciated :)
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reader, jeanc +, writes (6 May 2011):
jeanc is verified as being by the original poster of the question THank you for all who find time reading my post..and for helping me think and realize that hes not really worthy.. I am now moving , he didn't reply to my last email..so thats clear to me now that he doesnt want me anymore
Thank you again people :)
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reader, Eyespy17  +, writes (6 May 2011):
I suggested the final "goodbye" email for the orginial posters sanity. Something that will allow her to take back control and say "it's clear this isn't working out. I'm done".
I think for women - the uncertainity is what keeps our minds going and finality is needed. Since he's not man enough to Be blunt and straight forward ; she needs to end it once and for all so that she can move on.
And OP - I'm sure you will find a man who treats you so much better very soon!
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reader, IAMDONE +, writes (5 May 2011):
What makes the internet so grand is the fact that we can get online and be whomever we want to be and the person on the other end does not know who we really are and may never know. It appears to me that your relationship seemed to be going along fine until it was time for the two of you you to meet which tells me that he never actually wanted to meet you. Now, instead of saying I am not going to be able to meet you this month and I have reservations about meeting you for whatever reason he has decided to take the easy way out for him by blaming you for things that are not true. It is evident that he does not want to have any contact with you since he has blocked you...I wonder how many other girls he has done this to? Was it a thrill for him to talk and be with you online and when he has to come face to face he decided he does not want to. Something is not right with this picture. No, I would not try to contact him. He has already sent you a message loud and clear! Listen and take heed!
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reader, jeanc +, writes (5 May 2011):
jeanc is verified as being by the original poster of the questionto eyespy : yes i email him now..if i dont get any reply from him ,then yes its time for me to move on now..
thank you again :)
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reader, Eyespy17 +, writes (5 May 2011):
Oh sweetie ... It sounds like he is just making excuses. If your # comes up blocked and you leave a voicemail, he can still call you back. Or he SHOULD be calling you on his own. I would write him one final email (if it makes you feel better and have closure) something like "it is clear you are not as in to me as you used to be. I am moving on. If I am mistaken, you know how to reach me". And then go out there and date!!!
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reader, jeanc +, writes (4 May 2011):
jeanc is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for taking time reading and giving me advices :)
To eyespy : it was his idea to meet this MAY.. actually hes been planning to come last year but he didnt made it beacuse he has so many alibis.. and now its seems that its his excuse to not communicating with me so he cant come this MAY, yeah?
So tell me, if i call him, what shall i say? i dont think he will answer my call.. coz last month he never answer my call , i ask why, and he said coz it appears as BLOCKED NUMBER everytime i call him on his phone :(
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reader, Eyespy17 +, writes (4 May 2011):
You've been communicating for 16 months - almost a year and a half and have never met?
Whose idea was it to meet in May?
It does sound like he has moved on in the harshest way possible - especially since iyou believe he's blocked you.
but if you've been close for 16 months - I would attempt to call him. If you get no repsonse - then you know for sure. I am SO sorry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2011): I think he's using his suspicion of you cheating as a means of putting some distance between yourself and him. I can't imagine that he's lost interest in you in such a short time so either this has been building up or he's feeling a bit crowded in this relationship.
Personally I think making a big commitment to a long distance relationship is a disservice to both of you. You especially, being the woman. LDRs require the same sacrifices as real life ones without the same rewards. Women have too many other options to be agreeing to exclusivity with a man before any commitment is made.
Please do yourself a favour and remain single until a man offers you something more than a maybe.
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