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writes:I dont really know how to say this.. im not really good at telling people things so here it goes...every girl is ment to get their periods monthly right?well thats wat someone told me... i havnt gotten mine since just after christmas. i thought it was normal cause i dont get it monthly anyway i get it like every3months but i havnt had it for ages now.i doubt im pregnant due to i have never had sex before. i dont feel comftable telling my mother or anyone else, so i thought id come to you all for advice its easier to tell someone that cant judge me and i wont have to meet in person or see everyday.hope ya'll can help.Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk... so i went to the Dr's today... she told me i have to get a blood test and an altrasound to see whats wrong so said its very common for me to have PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome) n blah blah blah, so im doing that tomorrow.
Uhh i didnt actually tell my mum because she said i have to do things on my own n if i really need help for someone then to talk to her. So before we were talking n i told her the doctor said i might have PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome) cause she actually said i might.. then without relising mum knew everything about what i was going through suprisingly she told me when she was younger she got it n said i probly do got it then i said tht it has a risk of infertility n then she said yeah its true then i started crying cause all my life i have wanted my own child n everything like the joy of holding the new born in my arms after its birth, its first words, its first steps, its first tooth etc.
I guess i shouldnt get to worried about it untill i know for sure about it. But still looking on the chances its pretty intence finding out at age 14 that u might not be able to have your own children.
So this is just to tell you how things r.
Hope all for me goes well and all for you guys.
Thanks for helping me understand this and get it out in the open-ish cause without you guys i probs woulda never gone to the doctors about it.
Thankyou
im out
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni started it when it was 11 n then all this happen... its confusing normally it would be every 4weeks it was like tht for about a yr then it changed im now 14.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2009): Most people do get it every month, but some people such as yourself, have irregular periods. It's more than likely because you have always been irregular, and as you're a teenager you're body is probably still adjusting, and it may take a few years for it to become regular - in fact some adults don't always have regular periods either.
If you don't have any health issues (including being under or overweight) and aren't overly stressed by anything, then it probably is just because you're irregular. Also, worrying that you haven't come on your period will delay it aswell, so try not to relax! If you can't get it off your mind, then you could take a trip to the doctors to get checked out, to put your mind at ease.
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reader, ffogalilly  +, writes (1 September 2009):
When I was 14 my period started, I remember it lasted about a week, and after that I did not have one for several months.It took me a really long time for my cycle to regulate, it was never like clockwork, but if I were you, I would go visit your doctor just to get a check-up, nothing is probably wrong but that would probably make you feel better. Don't be embarrassed to tell your Mom, remember she was once your age too and probably had just as much trouble telling her Mother. I hope this helps.
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reader, Love_is_all_youu_need  +, writes (1 September 2009):
 My friend was in this situation, she was very concerned so went to a GP and had a blood test. Turns out she has PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome) - type it into google for more info, but thankfully it isn't too serious apart from the risk of infertility. It was caused because her body wasn't producing a certain hormone, which is vital. Therefore, this diagnosis meant she has to go on the pill which will give her this hormone she needs and make her periods start again.
I can't be sure if this is the case for you, you may have something completely different! But just get checked out at doctors as this could turn quite serious xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2009): Although it is generally accepted that girls have periods every month, it can actually vary from person to person. So what is normal for one may be different for someone else. Some women get their periods every month. Some get them every three weeks. For other's, they may be more unpredictable.
You are still young, so your periods are probably still trying to settle into a pattern. It may take a while for them to do this. It could be that your periods are just irregular though. I haven't been having periods for a while due to health reasons, but when I did, sometimes it would be a couple of months between them. Other times, only a few weeks. So don't panic if your periods aren't precisely monthly.
Make a note of the date when you get your periods. After a while, you may be able to see a pattern. You may notice that they tend to be spaced apart roughly, for example, six weeks. It can help you to predict when you are next due to start one.
If you still haven't had a period in a few weeks or so though, then maybe you could see a doctor to put your mind at ease, seeing as it has been quite a while now. But I doubt that there is anything really wrong as such. The fact that you have actually started your periods is a good sign. So try not to get too stressed about it. And try not to feel bad about this either. There is nothing to be judged about here. It is perfectly normal. I'm sure your mother would be interested in helping you, if you told her. But like I said, if you are still concerned, then maybe a trip to a doctor or nurse might help. Take care. x
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (1 September 2009):
 First off you shouldn't be embarrassed about talking to your mom about this, menstual cycles happen to every female on the planet. Secondly it's very common, especially for young girls, to have irregular cycles. Most of the time the cycles work themselves into a pattern but sometimes medication can help, like birth control pills. I think a doctor would be hesitant to put on those just yet however. Start keeping track of your periods so if and when you go get checked out you will have the information for your doctor. You are perfectly normal so relax, and have that chat with mom, she knows.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2009): If you are very thin ,or have lost a substantial amount of weight, this is the reason , as your body can not afford to lose precious blood.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2009): Hello, It's very important that you tell your mom. Trust me, my culture is very traditional, we don't really talk about things like this either openly, but I did when there was a problem. You may have something called PCOS. My cycles were irregular as well. Sometimes weight is an issue too. They may just prescribe birth control to get your cycle on track again. They may also prescribe a steroid (they gave me something called dexamethsone once).Please tell your mom what is happening. This is also bad for your ovaries, they can shrink over time. It may also be a hormonal imbalance, which can be checked with blood tests. No one can tell you here what's wrong. I know a bit about it because I had the same issue. But it can be several of those things above. Tell your mom, this is very serious.
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