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writes:Please can you help me, I've been with my partner 3 months and when we have sex I don't orgasm, he has not noticed this. I had a baby 3 years ago and thinking back, since I've had sex I haven't cum, please can you tell me is this normal?
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reader, petina1 +, writes (12 December 2008):
 Sometimes, underlying problems can put a blocker on you, like you may find it difficult to let yourself truly be relaxed during sex. Taking a step further back, was there anything in your childhood that made you fear sex. Just examples I'm chucking in. One reason maybe that youre not happy with the type of contraception you are using and not feel safe. Is that how your baby was conceived, or planned? Three months into a relationship is so new and you are still discovering and learning to trust this man. A bit further down the line with him, when you get to know him better, you may feel able to experiment more. The key is to enjoy it as fully as you can and then you can let yourself go, but it can take time especially with a new partner. hope this helps.
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reader, The.Always.There.Auntie +, writes (12 December 2008):
Hey
This is completely normal. It might or might not have anything to do with your having a baby. Many couples have difficulty having orgasms at different stages in thier sex life. It can happen any time at all and to anyone. It is nothing to worry about and you should start getting orgasms again any time soon. However, if you want to speed up the process, you can try experimenting alone or with your partner. This could hppen in a variety of ways...perhaps purchase some toys, try out new ways of having sex and try to spice up things in the bedroom. It often happens that when things get boring, you aren't so excited and you don't orgasm. Try different positions, using aids such as toys or costumes or just being on your own. If you haven't had oral sex for a while, give that a go to.
Good luck and I hope it woks itself out soon.
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