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writes:I feel like something is seriously wrong with me. There is this guy, who really likes me and I like him alot too and we both want to be in a relationship but im not sure if its a good idea because I am constantly feeling anxious, worried, insecure and down. If he doesnt reply to my messages straight away, or within an hour, I start crying thinking he must hate me and not like me anymore. If I dont talk to him atleast once each day, I assume itsb ecause im not good enough to be a part of his life anymore. If he chooses to play a video game over hanging out with me, I feel like im not worthy of his attention. This is all really getting me down and we havent even started dating yet!!!!I know that if i was to go into a relationship with him, my feelings would probably get worst and more exstreme. Idont know how to deal with all of this. I feel so out of control. I feel like my happiness is dependent on him. Do you know how bad that feels, for your emotions to be dependent on someone elses actions? its so horrible. but i dont know how to change it.I havent told him how i felt, and i certainly do not let him know that i get anxious and upset etc when he does all those things because i guess i dont think my feelings r valid. but it is how i feel.what is going on with me? i am 19 years old. i have had 2 bf's before and i felt like this with both of them, however each time, these feelings comeo n earlier. the first bf they didnt come on until a few months into the relationship (after he became abusive), the 2nd one, they came on after a few weeks (he was abusive then too) and now this guy, im not even dating him and i feel like this!!! please help me, im desperate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2008): Not to be rude in anyway, but I think you already know the answer to your question. You're obviuosly not ready for a relationship, so don't push it, just learn to love yourself first before you wory about loving someone else. Mr.right is out there waiting for you, so don't rush sweety, take your time. That's what I did, and now I'm with my mr.right.
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