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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now, and he is the ONLY person to ever get me off. Orally of course, but I got off none the less.My issue is that he hasn't gone down on me for 10 monthes. And his reasons vary depending on when I ask him why. He's said he has too much on his mind from work, he's tiard, he doesn't feel like it, he doesn't want to because I'm "always mad" and he says he doesn't want to because it takes me so long.Now here's my side of the story, (which he's heard many times before)Thinking about work and being tiard are good reasons not to want to please me, but the reason I'm always mad is because he hasn't gotten me off for 10 monthes and when we have sex, he comes then tosses a towel between my legs to clean up his mess. Therefore it is not a good reason considering it's his fault. and he knows it.And it takes me so long to come because he does things to me when he goes down that he KNOWS I don't like. That turns me off, and pisses me off. But that's why it takes me so long. And he refuses to do thing differently.August 24th will be 1 year since he's satisfied me. And when that day comes, I'm telling him he will be getting no more sex, OR oral, until he takes care of me. I value your thoughts on this, because I love him, but being able to mutually "release" is very important to me. But it seems all he cares about is himself. Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2010): if you're that close to your boyfriend you should be able to tell/ discuss with him what does/doesnt feel good.. also try flavoured lube, makes my boyfriend offer to go down all the timee
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (3 June 2010):
 Why wait until 24th. August ? Why not just do it immediately?
Can you hold until that date and not go burst?
You should settle this problem as soon as you can and not wait for that date.
You scratch my back and I will scratch yours.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2010): If he is a taker then don't let him take, if your not having orgasms your not having a strong sexual release so it doesn't seem like you'll be missing out loads as your not getting that.
No sex till he let's you orgasm.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (2 June 2010):
 Hmm...well, I would suggest taking care of yourself! Why wait for him?? Learn about your own body and give yourself relief! Don't pin your entire ability to release on this guy or any guy.
And why give him what he wants and have him leave you high and dry? He's not too tired to have his own orgasm, and I guarantee that he's also taking care of himself.
Don't get mad - get fair. Don't wait until August. He's too tired, yet he wants his. That's not tiredness, that's lazyness and selfishness.
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